When you offer to pay for dinner to be polite, but you don't really want them to take you up on the offer.
2007-06-08 06:33:29 · 12 answers · asked by Dave 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Maybe this was a bad example. Say you tell your parents that you will mow the lawn if they want you to, but you don't think they will take you up on the offer
2007-06-08 06:59:33 · update #1
stupidity! Say what you mean, and mean what you say. No one reads minds.
2007-06-08 06:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by jmmevolve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the word you're looking for "renege"?
I'd call it poor etiquette or bad behavior, actually.
Only propose paying for meals you can afford or want to pay for. If it isn't meant, it really shouldn't be said in a social setting or said as if it was an invitation you wanted the other person to take you up on.
It would hold for business situations, too--never offer to take someone out with the promise to pay, then renege or go back on the deal.
They'll think you'll do the same when it comes to deals and dollars with their company, too.
There is a way to do this in a better way, if what you actually meant was "NICE TO SEE YOU, LET'S GET TOGETHER SOON". Just say the words in caps, then smile or shake hands, say goodbye, then walk away.
No promise was made, but you were still polite.
2007-06-08 13:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by bookratt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Showy. No sincerity. Not trustworty. Why offer to pay to be polite??? when you don't want them to take up on your offer. Did you invite the person for dinner? If you did, you pay. If you did not invite but feels the need to be polite to offer to pay, then pay. No one could read your mind. Boy, you are a cheapskate - lol. Best time to learn some basic etiquette.
2007-06-08 13:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by apple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-importance.
2007-06-08 13:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Leonard Moo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheisty.
2007-06-08 13:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean you offer to do sth that you know will be refused only to seem polite?
scheming, fake ...i suppose ... sorry there's no specific word for that.
2007-06-09 08:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by yin yang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going Dutch?
If you wanted to do that, you should have said so from the start.
2007-06-08 13:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by socmum16 ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheap
Dishonest
Ungrateful
Disgusting
Liar
If you don't intend to pay,
just keep quiet, and tip.
2007-06-08 13:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are polite, but poor--- or cheap.
2007-06-08 13:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to pay dont offer......its confussing and embarasing
2007-06-08 14:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by irene k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋