has anyone ever moved in with their partner only to regret it about a year later?

Question

i moved in with my boyfriend right out of high skool basically(i know, already a bad idea). it slowly just like happened and i thought it was cool. we've been together for almost 2 years and i think im over it. lately, i realize how serious everything has gotten and i feel like im married already.

i met him when i was 15 and we were forced apart because he was 5 years older than me. i knew we were gonna see each other again but i was hoping it would happen when i was like 22 or 23. but it happened earlier than that and i took it.

so now im trying to figure out how im going to get out of this. its gotten really bad cuz we have our own place and 2 dogs!!!!

does anyone have any helpful words of wisdom or a story to share cuz i really need any kind of support and help i can get

Answer 1

Be thankful you only have dogs and not kids! :-)

Sit down and talk with him. Tell him you are unhappy and then move forward with your life. He may be hurt, but honesty is always the best way to go...

good luck

Answer 2

here is my story....when i was 17 i moved in with this guy cause i just couldn't get along with my mom any more. he was great a first then became very abusive. We had a complete house set up so I stayed for 2 years. You have to think about your life and what you want. Please dont stay where you are not happy it will affect all your future relationships. I was lucky enough to get out of my situation with the help of my now husband. we have been married for 11 years now. Life is just to short to be unhappy. If you have a job and a way to get out just tell the boyfriend that you just want to see what life is like on your own for a bit. That you need to see if you can be a real person all on your own. If he really cares then he will understand. Life has many hardships you just pick yourself up and go on. You can get new dogs and the feelings you have will get more clear as you figure out what you want in your life. This is all kinda blurred together but I hope it helps.

Answer 3

I feel ya sweetheart, Im in a similar position. Heres what you do. The living together thing isnt really the root of the problem, its the relationship itself. You need to assess how you feel about your relationship with him. Are you longing to explore a bit and see whats out there because you've been together so long and im guessing he was your first? Are you unhappy with him? Do you feel like you need more space? Figure out how you feel about the relationship first, then with that basis you can decide what to do. If you feel you need to try the world out a bit more then its time to break up or take a break. Let him know how you feel. Find a good friend to move in with or move home. If you want to keep the relationship but feel living together isnt working out correctly, get your own place (with or without roomate) or move home but keep some extra stuff there and spend the night a couple times a week. Hope it helps

Answer 4

I think you mature a lot between 17 and 25. Ya, the law says you're an adult at 18, but many are still trying to find themselves at that age. I know I was.
I'd say you made a good move here, though. You tested the relationship. It doesn't seem like it's going to work long term, so despite how hard it is, you've got to move on.
Next, you've got to decide whether it's a slow backdown or cold turkey. That depends on your bf's personality.

Answer 5

lol oh I got a story for you and it's recent. Last year I had got with my ex* he was my boyfriend of course at the time* back in February. I had a lovely job *made over $200 every 2 weeks and got premoted*. BUT I moved out of my parents house in May of that year *I moved out on Mothers Day of ALL days..talk about hurting your parents*. Everything went to hell in a hand basket I swear lol. I moved in with his friends that were like family to him. He did construction so he traveled with his boss since he didn't drive. I lost my virginity to him the 1st night I moved in. Then I got pregnant off that first time. THEN I had a seizure at the end of that month. Afterwards he hardly even came to see me and I lost the baby July 18th*3 days after my Birthday even!*. He came to see me for 2 days but left 2 days before my Birthday. Really... it was like he wasn't even there anymore! Soon I moved out in late August because I couldn't take it anymore. By this time I didn't realize I had a miscarriage because I was still growing and had every symptom. I had a ultra-sound done in September and the nurse told me I had a Phantom Pregnancy. Basically my body still thought it was pregnant. When I told my ex about it... He broke up with me and said his problems were more important than me having a miscarriage. I DEFINETLY learned my lesson because I had to piece my life back together after that. Now I'm trying to get back into college and I have a new boyfriend. We've been together since February of this year but REFUSE to move in together until we BOTH are ready. The funny thing is that me and my current boyfriend have known each other longer than me and my ex have known each other. I've known my current boyfriend for over 2 years but he was respectful enough to back off when I was taken. So...hopefully you don't feel too bad about your situation after hearing mine lol. My best advice?? You both need to sit down and have a talk..a long serious talk and be open and honest with one another. There needs to be some give and take in a situation like that but you need to let him know he needs to give alittle as well to make you feel more comfortable! The communication line between you 2 is all tangled right now. Untangle it and who knows... you could actually start enjoying living with him. I say "At least talk things out first and then TRY to make it work before giving up". If that doesn't work then part ways.

Answer 6

My bestest moved in with her boyfriend (and his roommates) about a year ago and now they are on the verge of breaking up. He never wanted her to move in but she sort of did it sneakingly. She kept claiming that her apartment wasn't ready or they gave her space away, nonsense like that. So now that the boys' lease is almost up she asked him if he wanted to get a place with her and he said no!!! So my advice to you is if you guys are renting wait until the lease is up and get separate places. If the two of you bought a home together consider seeking legal advice!!

Answer 7

You now have matured and you realize you made a huge mistake. Don't spend the rest of your life in that mistake. You need to do what needs to be done to extricate yourself from this mess. If you don't have a job, get one. Find a small place that allows one dog, if you can (so you can take one and leave one), and move on.

Answer 8

yeah, I made that mistake of moving in with my boyfriend. The only way you can get out of it is to either move back in with your parents and take your stuff with you, secretly find a new place, rent it and then tell him you're leaving, or just say you need space and it's getting too serious with you and find a way to get away from him. Me, personally, I moved from Utah to New York City to get away from the guy I moved in with. lol. It worked.

Answer 9

Move out,at least your not married with children in which case you would be in a world of crap, count your blessings and don't think that all relationships will end badly, live and learn and be happy.

Answer 10

ok, the two you or him ought to pass out of the abode in the present day. provide up having intercourse with him! do not him the time of day! are you able to stay along with your mothers and fathers, acquaintances, kin until Dec? If not, tell him to pass stay together with his new female chum. i don't care if he had the abode already, that's now 0.5 yours!!! you are able to require him to go away... is he merely assuming you will take the youngsters? if so, then that's his accountability as a father to furnish his infants with a house, what better than the abode they understand and love? He ought to be transferring out! he's the guy who cheated. Take action, enable him understand that what he's executed is actual and has actual effects... I do have faith he will remorseful approximately it as quickly as you're long previous. yet you will ought to go away for some months until now he realizes. as quickly as you go away he will pass by means of a 'honeymoon era' together with his female chum for a on the same time as, and then ultimately certainty will hit and he will desire you returned. don't be a fool and bounce returned in, make the cheater artwork for it, tell him you want him to return sparkling to all his kin approximately what he's executed so as that they are able to help the two considered one of you thru your reconciliation. If he desires to be freed from you, you ought to furnish him a flavor of that freedom as quickly as possible... he won't like it. provide up having intercourse with him, tell him to pass get it from his little abode-wrecker!!! At this degree he needs his cake and consume it too - do not enable him! If he can get some from you, and a few from her, then why would not he try?? you ought to provide up it. Be stable. go away him in the present day. Absence makes the heart strengthen fonder, I provide him 2 months until now he's on his knees begging for you returned - yet for that to take place you ought to stay away and decrease off all touch with him... you ought to furnish him the possibility to omit you, yet once you're offering intercourse whilst he needs, or interest, or communique even, he won't get the possibility to omit you and fully journey existence without you.