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Okay here is the situation. I just married into a family where there are two new babies. They are two months apart. One from my husbands sister and the other from his brother. His sister and sister-in-law do not like each other and never have. I currently have been watching his sisters child two days a week for about a year. I also offered to watch his brothers child for two hours on one of those days. Now his sister freaked out and basicly said if I want to watch her child I can't watch the other one. I don't know what to do they are both my neices and I love them both the same. Any advice?

2007-06-08 05:58:41 · 7 answers · asked by christa 1 in Family & Relationships Family

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You tell the sister that you're sorry she feels that way, because you love both of your nieces and want to spend time with both of them; Offer to make sure that the two moms pick their babies up at diferent times, but ultimately it IS up to the moms who watches thier kids & if one doesn't wnat you to because you're also watching the other child, there's really nothing you CAN do about it.

2007-06-08 06:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Misty 2 · 0 0

You can't control how your sister in law behaves but you can control your own actions. Politely tell her that whatever issue she has with the other sister in law is between the two of them. You are merely neutral in this situation. Also, tell her that you equally love both of your nieces and want to spend as much time as you can with both. If your sister in law still wants to behave immaturely then I guess the only thing you can do is to take turns having each niece alone or have them on separate days.

2007-06-08 06:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1 0

Tell them to grow-up and if she doesn't like it she can find a new babysitter. You can kindly say that you don't want to get into the middle of there fight but that the children have the right to grow-up and know each other. You can also tell her she can pick her child up at a different time so they won't run into each other. Really though those children don't deserve to not know each other because the mothers can not get along. Think of the kiddo's!

2007-06-08 06:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 1 0

Well, then don't watch either child. And when SIL cries that she needs you so she can work, tell your brother to speak with his sister about her mean-spirited ultimatum and how small and petty and hideously ugly it makes her look.

Or you can watch the other baby on a different day...

The two Mommies don't need to adore each other, but they should at least learn how to be civil.

2007-06-08 06:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0 0

i'm extremely sorry to hearken to with regard to the shortcoming of your son. it is an overpowering loss. Your sister-in-regulation is tremendously insensitive. Now could no longer be the ideal time to befriend her. It seems such as you the two desire a cooling off era. tell your husband you're keen to be polite and civil together with her. Then stick to with the aid of on that. once you do seek advice from her, stick to small communicate. in basic terms save reminding your self that it is the final element to accomplish that there is peace interior the kinfolk. solid success.

2016-10-09 12:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

It sounds like your sister in law is incredibly immature, she has no right to tell you who you can and can not babysit. I personally would tell her to find another sitter rather than have her dictate to me. She may concede, good babysitters are hard to find.

2007-06-08 06:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0 0

Can't believe they are being so petty. I think you should do what you want, and of course you love them both. Gosh, people are such weirdos. What is your husbands opinion

2007-06-08 06:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0 0

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