I broke a good relationship bcoz of my parents.It looks like the other person is still in love with me , I am sure this is the best decision that can be taken given the circumstances.I do not know what words will console the person . I am thinking the best thing that can be done , is not to start the fire by being in contact with the person . I hope time will heal the person and i think healing process is delayed , if ex keeps in touch . Am i right ?It was my mistake and i take the blame whole heartedly. Because of my stupidness and immaturity , another heart is in pain .What is the best level of contact with an ex?
2007-06-08 05:34:34 · 16 answers · asked by oh my! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really think u should have a talk with him and let him know that the only reason u broke it off with him was to avoid complications with ur parents (which is the best thing to do seeming u are still a minor...are u?) u should still be able to remain friends and still talk to eachother...if he is able too. if he states that it is hard for him to have any contact with u then respect his wishes and leave him alone to try to get over u......
this is the hardest thing for a soul to do (getten over someone who u loved or cared about) although i really dont think it ever happens......time just takes away the pain :-(
2007-06-08 06:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ma Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if the feelings are still there.... then why is the relationship still broken off? Your parents do have an opinion, but in the end it is your life. Unless you are the age where you are still under your parents house and rules... but even then, some of the greatest love stories are those where the couple was against all odds but they didn't care.... If you have no intention of ever getting back together with your ex- then the best decision is to end communication because if you still have feelings they will subtly show and your ex will get the impression that you two might get back together. The most unselfish thing you can do is let your ex move on and give them the chance to be happy, even if it's not with you.
2007-06-08 05:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking correctly. We all do mistakes and break a heart or two, there's nothing you can do about it. You cannot also look at it as a mistake because I am sure you had good intentions, it's just that your love never grew for this person and that's how life is. You have to forgive yourself. We do not choose who we love. It was correct that you broke the relationship up, not only because of your parents but because you obviously do not share his feelings. So forgive yourself, break off the contact, kindly explain to him that is for the better and he will eventually be over you. It takes time and it's a ***** but it is needed for personal growth. Good luck to you and I hope you find the one you will be happy with in the future, which I am sure you will:)!
2007-06-08 05:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many factors to consider.
Why do your parents disapprove of this relationship? If it is a genuine reason, then do not get in touch with your ex. However, if you feel that you must go back to that person, then get in touch with him ASAP. Whatever you do, do not be confused and keep taking contradictory decisions.
Also remember, falling in love is one thing and getting married and starting a family is another. Keep the following things in mind while choosing a spouse:
1. His/her career.
2. His/her responsibility.
3. His/her faithfulness.
4. His/her dressing sense.
5. His/her religion, community or political beliefs.
6. His/her physical condition (for example: You do not want to give birth to an AIDS infected baby).
7. His/her mental condition.
8. His/her drinking/smoking habits.
9. Whether he/she has any criminal background.
10. Any hereditary disease in his/her family.
There are many others to think of ...
Good luck!
-Regards-
2007-06-08 05:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should both give it time apart to get over the initial emotions after a break-up. All break-ups, especially unexpected ones, can be shocking and extremely hard to deal with. By continually talking to the ex, you're right, it could delay this process. When you think the time is right, you could just check in with a simple "how are you doing" but this is totally up to you. Good luck with everything!
2007-06-08 05:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will only cause additional pain if you keep in contact. At this point it is meaningless who broke up with who, it's past that point. Do not contact the person, or return contact. That will only delay the healing process.
If you really cared for this person, you will have no additional contact.
2007-06-08 05:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your ex go so he/she can let go of you. Time will heal your ex's wounds.
For your ex, the reason why it is so hard to get over a breakup is not being able to let go of false hope. If you keep in touch with your ex, he/she will start to believe that there might be a chance of getting back together with you. I know it's not like you're going to lead him/her on but you continuing to be in your ex's life is too much.
By keeping in touch, you are actually inflicting PROLONGED and REPETITIVE pain. The initial pain is the break-up. As you keep your ex in your life, your ex will start to hope that somehow/someway you'll come back (afterall, you're still around and still talking to him/her) but eventually you'll crush this "hope" and break your ex's heart AGAIN.
This pain could been over a long time ago---- over time your ex would have learned to accept the breakup and have moved on. By waiting around and hoping, your ex is trapping him/herself in an endless circle of emotional torture.
2007-06-08 05:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by giantph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not contact the person. Give the person time to heal and move on. You will only stir up feelings if you reach out for contact. Be a mature person and move on so your ex can move on.
2007-06-08 05:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by MJ MCK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would cut my loses, and not stay in touch w/ him. It is hard to get over someone, if you still are in contact. Unless you to are still in love w/ him and you think there might be a future for you two. See where the relationship goes. You never know.
2007-06-08 05:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by S and B L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By keeping in touch, you hold the door open that someday things will work out. It is kinder to close off all communication. Hard, but best in the end, if you 2 have no future.
2007-06-08 05:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by M S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋