2007-06-08 05:02:09 · 13 answers · asked by WWTSD? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
bettierage: Not yet -- she only found out last week she is pregnant. Thanks for you wisdom. :)
2007-06-08 05:08:26 · update #1
If she has other children offer to watch them while she takes a nap. Help her by cleaning her house or even set her up with a housecleaning service. Bring good food. Tell her that you are thinking about her, that you want to help, and ask her if there is anything she would like you to do for her.
edit: I agree with bettierage, distract her. You can bring movies, magazines, and conversation.
2007-06-08 05:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's going to need all the support she can get -- both in terms of doing things for her and giving her mental/emotional support. Since a lot of women find it hard to be the one being taken care of as opposed to being the caretaker, you may just have to step up to the plate and say, "I'd like to run this errand for you while you rest" or "How about if I fix/buy us some dinner tonight?"
A woman's motions and mental state bounce around enough during a normal pregnancy, but during a high risk pregnancy, they can be like a pendulum -- high one second, low the next. If she needs to talk, listen without criticizing. If she needs to cry or yell or vent, be there for her.
Mostly, though, just let her know that you care and will support her, come what may. That's probably the most important thing and the one that she needs most right now -- your love and strength.
2007-06-08 05:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could fix her a pillow for her feet, and do her chores for her. You could cook and clean and run her errands for her. You could sit with her, and hold her hand, and keep your mouth shut, while she frets and worries about what might happen.
If you really care about her, you would not want her to go through the nightmares so many women have had after aborting their babies. You would leave these heavy discussions between her and her doctor...and her God, if she is a believer.
Since we all know by now that you are not, I will volunteer to do the best thing anyone can do for her.
I will pray.....
2007-06-08 05:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help her out to keep her stress levels at a minimum. So, offer to do some work for her, cook her meals, run errands... also go to the library and check out peaceful music and books on relaxation and meditation for her to read while she is on bed rest. Hold her hand and be there for her when she gets scared or worried about the baby. Tell her she is strong and will be able to handle anything that happens. Get her a gift certificate for a prenatal massage if her dr. will allow her to get one. If you pray, then pray for her to have a peaceful pregnancy or direct peaceful energy to her.
2007-06-08 05:10:19 · answer #4 · answered by NONAME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just by being there for her-- in the mundane and the exciting. I'm sure she will have lots of fears and it will seems like a long, bumpy 9 months. She's going to need a hand to hold and an ear to listen to her.
If you can do errrands and such as the others have suggested, all the better.
Congrats to your friend!
2007-06-08 08:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First look online exactly what this means...
this is a very serious condition...
I am sure she might be on bed rest, which means other people are gonna have to do alot of things for her...go shopping for her,
cook for her...take her to appointments, just be there in general for her...she may not want you to do anything, but just be patient with her...I am sure she is very scared for her baby...try to comfort her as much as you can...My daughter-in-law went through this...it was a terrible time for all of us...but she made it, and the baby was healthy...
Just encourage her as much as you can...
You are truly a good friend...
Good luck to both of you...
2007-06-08 05:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kerilyn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife was also a high risk. Explain the importance of eating right, getting enough rest and not to exsert more than her doctor allows her. Truthfully all preg. can be high risk it is just a matter of what you do and how you do it. God Bless.
2007-06-08 05:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
REAFFIRM to her that the baby is ok and healthy each day. To the point that both of you do the reafirmation on a daily basis. Say "the baby (boy or girl) is healthy and full of life, he/she is going to be born and will do great on her life on earth." Repeat that affirmation everytime that the negative thoughts come to your/her mind...
You have nothing to loose, just try it. Is called "The Law of Attraction"
2007-06-08 05:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by NinfaLuna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drive her to her OB/GYN appointments. Offer to cook her meals, or bring freezable prepared meals (casseroles and such). Help her with her housework. Do all the laundry (she shouldn't be lifting anything, anyway). Bring her DVDs of her favorite movies. Hug her... a lot. Be supportive. Tell her you'll be there to help. Tell her you love her. Mean it.
2007-06-08 05:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by link955 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is she on bed rest? Help out with housework, run errands for her. Let her talk about it, don't try to fix it for her. Distract her.
Edit: Grrrr at Rocky...
2007-06-08 05:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋