Bad in bed..PROBLEM!?

Question

Ok..Here it is!

I have with this dude (hes 16 im 17) and we were on and off for 2 years. and he was GREAT in bed. He knew how to hold me and where to kiss me and just how to please me. well now im with this other guy (hes 20 im 17) and i dated him when i was a freshmen in highschool (in now a senior) and he sucks in bed. He dosent know how to hold me or where to kiss me and when we are "together" im day dreaming about the other guy.

How do I make the new guy good in bed and how do I get over the other one?

Answer 1

Guys who suck in bed have serious emotional and ego problems. Unless you can get him to see a professional about his issues (which his ego probably won't let him do) you will be better off with the guy who knew what he was doing, or finding someone else who knows what he is doing. Sex comes naturally, and it should be great from the beginning. Some guys just aren't comfortable enough with themselves to make an attempt to please a girl in bed. We are born to know what to do, but some guys are too scared to make an attempt, because they don't want to try and fail. It's about insecurety. Girls need to tell them that they suck and also what is expected of them so they don't spend the rest of their lives having sex without ever pleasing a woman. You can try directing your new guy and see if he wises up. He might catch on, but if not, it sounds like you will be happier with the younger lad who rocked your world. Unless enjoying sex isn't that important to you.

Answer 2

Sounds like the 20 year old better find him a real women, and stay away from a child. You are only 17 everything in high school is all kisses and hugs.....just wait. Wait until you get out int he real world and are so tired and exhausted that you don't want to do the kissy face crap. I am sure your current boyfriend isn't into the whole high school stuff anymore.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

some gury just are dumb in bed.. your first guy had it donw pat and made sure you were first and made you feel good and did it right your second guy need a little guidance tell him what to do.. tell him if he is doing somthing good or not there. do it this way.. he will learn or you will have to change guys.. dont let him do it the wrong way it is not pleasurable for you to do it bad... have fun... and feel wonderful it is a great thing and should always feel fantastic...

Answer 5

...communication will get you everywhere darlin...believe you me! Tell and show this new guy what you like honey! Nobody is a mind reader seriously....and some of us special guys have fallen behind your learning curve unreasonably. Tell us and show us what you want darlin....otherwise you'll only get as good as you give sweetie.

Answer 6

Get together with the previous dude and have the new guy watch and learn and take notes on "how to".

Answer 7

Just break it to him that he isn't what you want in the sack. Then if he is willing to listen tell him the things you like and how they should be done. Make sure you reciprocate and do things he wants to him otherwise he won't be very interested.

Answer 8

Just tell him the way you like to be touched and pleased. He'll get the hang of it eventually and when he does there will be no reason to think of the other guy.

Answer 9

You are gorgeous, i'm 19, 6'2 brown hair blue eyes built athletic, 190 and interested

Answer 10

you need to tell him what you want him to do to you... be subtle, don't tell him it's because your ex did it to you dat way... just show him... he should get better... I had the same problem with my current partner.. but now she is much better after about 6 months./... if that doesn't work dump his ***.