School problem ?

Question

Hello, can you help me out here, Alright, I just graduated yesturday on Thursday. It seems it was not all quite well as I have planning. I was stress out and confuse. I didn't get pictures of my friends cause my sister. I did say farewell to some of my friends. But my mom and dad are to strict. They wanted me to go home. Also they were bltching to much. I feel like this is one of my worst day now. I just waking up right now. Thinking what to do next in my life. I feel like I don't have control at all. What can I do now ? What can I do ? Thanks!

Answer 1

Wow, not to be disrespectful, but you need to brush up on your grammar and writing a bit. Then get serious about your plans for college, a job, or the military.
You have all kinds of options, just start investigating! Take advantage of the free room and board for a while so you can get your feet on the ground. I have a feeling that if you show some responsibility your parents may not complain so much. Time will go fast and the saying that "You either play now and PAY later or pay now and PLAY later" is true. You just have to decide which you want to do. Trust me, having the finances later in life (to play) because you buckled down and got an education early is much better than wasting time and money now and having to work your bottom off later in life.

You are in control of your life, of course, but judging from your question (the way it is presented) you may still need Mom and Dads help a bit. It really sounds to me that there are definitely two sides to this story.

Why did you allow your sister to ruin your chance for pictures? You have known graduation was coming for a year now, you never had a chance to say good bye? This question is a little off I guess.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

I'm sorry things didn't go how you had planned at graduation.

You need to consider your options, and write down the pros and cons of each one.
--You could go out and get a job. You probably will not get a very good job w/o a college degree, but you also need to understand that there are a whole lot of people out there with college degrees that are working at Walmart. Any place you work - McD's, Walmart, an office - you CAN ADVANCE if you work hard and are decent to other people. Obviously your choices will be more limited w/o a degree, but it is still possible to advance in these places if you are patient and competent. The thing is, a lot of people, if they are in a job that they do not consider to be a 'good' job, just slack off, rather than trying to MAKE it into a good job.
--You can join the military. This would take care of a few years plus give you college money. However, you WILL be shipped overseas rather quickly, so don't make this move without carefully considering your other options.
--You can go to a trade school. What are your talents and interests?
--You can go to college, if you have an interest that requires a degree. You will probably have to take some of the basic courses your first year, because your writing is not what would be expected of a high school graduate.

You need to write down where you want to be in your life ten years from now, then plan steps to get there. For instance, if in 10 years you want to be married with a house partially paid for and a job making _____ amt of money, then plan what you will need to do to get a job making that money; save as much of your paycheck as you can, esp while you are living at home, so you will get a good start on that house; and as far as the being married part, be the kind of man who will attract the kind of woman you want to marry. Will the kind of woman you want to marry be attracted to a young man who lies around his parents' home and does not work? Probably not. So you need to decide what you want, then decide how to best get to where you want.

Answer 3

Some people have an image in their mind of what a special day or moment will be like, and as they plan and anticipate the day, there are such high expectations that nothing in reality will be as good as the plan. Add on top of that, the anxiety of being in front of people to receive your diploma, give a speech, or have your educational journey highlighted turns the focus on you--even if for a few minutes. Weddings can be like that for people also. I don't remember much about the people at my wedding, I didn't get to eat, we took TOO MANY pictures, etc. Nothing will ever be perfect, so if possible, try to find at least 1 memory of how yesterday was special.

You are probably coming down from the huge amount of stress--that is why you are sleeping much of the day. Your stress hormones have been surging on high for a few days--that's probably why you were moody yesterday, and now you are crashing.

SO, take a week or so to relax and get yourself pulled back together. Try not to mentally beat up yourself, your sister, or your parents over a day that was high stress for everyone. If you need to, put your cap and gown back on, call your friends and have them come to your house, and have your sister take pictures of you with your friends. Be silly, laugh, and enjoy each other.

Then talk to your mom and dad when you are feeling better. If needed, take an interest inventory or career survey. They help you take a look at what you are good at, what is important to you, and help to narrow down what types of jobs you should consider. Not everything has to be decided in a day or even a week.

What did you do last summer? Do something like that this summer and give yourself time to plan for fall.

Good luck and take care of yourself! Don't forget that your family cares about you or they wouldn't have been at your graduation!!

Answer 4

Relax. You do have control if you want it, but it will take work, time, persistance, planning and patience.

Maybe a good place to start is to look for a job. It'll get you out of the house, give you some money and experience.

Maybe you can also spend the summer into looking at your options for the things you might want to do.

Do you think college is a realistic goal for you? I mean, do you want to go for a degree? Would you be willing to go back to school and study? If so, look into a local community college, and look into grants and work-study before looking into loans-- trust me, you don't NEED to go into debt to get an education, and it's probably best not to.

Perhaps trade school might be something more for you? They also have financial assistance, and lots of options: auto mechanics, computers, massage therapy, cooking, truck driving-- there's so many options. Why not look into some things that you think you might like.

You have so many choices right now, probably more than you realize-- just take it one decision at a time.

MSB

Answer 5

Maybe you can talk with your parents and arrange a BBQ for all your friends. It can even be a potluck to keep cost down, and see if other parents will help chaperone so your strict parents will have some assurance that they are not the only ones to try and control all these kids. This will give you something to focus on for the next few days and give you a chance for pics and good byes.

Answer 6

Are you feeling better? I understand the stress of the graduation. Our school is usually loaded with drama at the end of the school year. Be kind to your parents. That's one of the first lessons you need to learn.
I'm not saying that your friendships are worthless, but your family will be with you forever.
Continue your education. You don't stop learning when you turn 18 and/or graduate from high school.

Answer 7

Sweetie, take control.

Plan on college. You have to at least go for one semester. Even take out a loan to do so, you're going to go into debt, might as well make it worth while.

Stand up to your parents. You are a grown up now, and can leave and never come back. They know this. They don't want you to know this. If you show some backbone, you WILL get respect.

The time after graduation is the worst for everyone, very bittersweet and super confusing. Plan your life in baby steps. One day, one accomplishment at a time right now. AND GO TO COLLEGE. (Everyone goes into debt, why not make your debt count?)

Answer 8

I agree...TAKE CONTROL over YOUR LIFE.

As an adult, legally, you need to say to yourself "I need to figure out how to make the most of my life. Get it in line for my future."

If you are living in your parents home, you need to follow their rules. For sure. But if you truly think your parents are wrong, just bit*hy, for no reason...that you don't deserve the way they treat you, then move. Take control and get a job and go..that is what adults DO.

But if you can see why they treat you the way they do...if you have given them reasons to treat you this way, stay home where it's free and really get your ducks in a row.

Answer 9

You didn't get much of an education because you can barely write or spell. Go to a community college and do some remedial work in English.

Answer 10

Move out of your house.