What should I do?

Question

What would you advice!?
What shoudl you do?
I am been recently emailing with a female friend who lives about 50 miles away. I am in the procces of moving into her city. She knows this. Last time we saw each other. Neither of us knew it was the best time to began dating. Unexceplty I am going to be moving to this city much sooner then I had thought. I had been emailing her a couple times a month recently. I had tried to set up a lunch meeting to see her again. However she is extremley busy so it is hard to get her to commit to anything. What the best way to phrase the question about getting together again. So that there is way to get no even if she is not busy. I know she is not blowing me off based on our long relationship and history. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

Put the ball in her court.

"I know that you have a hectic schedule and as my schedule is more flexible let me know what day is good for you to meet for Lunch"

Something along those lines.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

At first it sounds like you are more of a 'penpal' than a romantic interest. She may be so busy at her job and private life that she only has time to e-mail you right now. You may have to accept that getting together with you is not her number one priority right now, but you have to realize she may be carrying a heavy workload both at work and at home. Does she have children? Children take up a lot of time, and many marriage relationships fall apart becuase the woman is so busy with the kids she has no time left for the husband.
You might want to cool down a little and look for ways to ease her burdens. If you really care, I mean really, you could be OK with being a good friend, a shoulder to lean on, someone who helps when she needs it, that sort of thing, without demanding sex as payment. If she is equally into you, a relationship will happen just by you being there for her. Just remember that busy means she is dealing with a lot of responsibilities right now, and give her time to fulfill her current commitments without burdening her with yet another one in the form of you. Give her some space, and then be there when space becomes available.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

First of all, you need to realize, (and I dont mean this in a negative way), that she may have a very busy life. We all do. She may not be blowing you off, but she may be seeing someone and may not be very serious with them. I am sure that she knows that you want to get together for lunch and maybe become more than friends, but give her some space and time. She's probably seen the emails and will get back to you when she gets the chance.

Give her some breathing room or she'll never contact you.

Answer 4

Just be polite and not pushy. Leave the ball in her court to contact you when she's available. If that doesn't work, one very nice follow-up a month or so later is all I would do. If she doesn't take advantage, move on.