THIS IS NOT SOMETHING I AM PLANNING TO DO - JUST A QUESTION!!! I have never seen this, everyone talks about not wearing white, cream or ivory as a guest, but in the UK this is not viewed so seriously, everyone invited knows who the bride and groom are, I just don't see how anyone could confuse a guest with the bride.
2007-06-08 03:31:59 · 27 answers · asked by sparkleythings_4you 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes my Sister in Law upstaged the bride at her friends wedding last week.
She wore a WHITE Monsoon BRIDAL two-piece dress!!
At the bar close to the registry office, people kept asking whether she was the bride - No, maid of Honor - NO, bridesmaid - NO.... This happened 5x within half an hour of people congratulating her on her marriage!!!
She finally took the hint and went home to change!!
Why buy a 'wedding' dress for Monsoon 'bridal' department in the 1st place!!!!
I have made it clear to her in person that she isn't to wear white or ivory to the wedding... i honestly wouldn't mind people wearing white or ivory to a beach wedding (i would prefer it) but after this pathetic incident, i wouldn't trust her... and don't want to get off on the wrong foot.
2007-06-09 18:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're saying. Seriously, how can you miss the big pouffy dress and veil? There's no doubt as to who is the bride. The only time I've seen this "upstaging" is at a very informal wedding. The bride wore a simple white dress, but so did a guest (who thought the wedding would be more traditional). But the bride still had a veil.
It's not really a matter of anyone upstaging the bride. It's more a matter of good taste versus bad taste. Don't wear white to weddings unless you're the bride. Don't wear a low-cut red slinky dress to a funeral. Don't wear a bikini top to a graduation ceremony. That kind of thing.
2007-06-08 04:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a guest, but I worked in a hotel that use dto host wedding receptions, and if there was a less formal wedding where the bride might be in a white trouser suit, or a shorter dress, if other guests were wearing white or cream it was possible that the staff might confuse her with the bride, which would be embarrassing for everyone.
Like others have said, it's also about it being the bride (and the groom's!) special day, and no-one should do anything to take attention away from them.
2007-06-08 03:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I know where you coming from you can wear white and ivory just as long as it doesnt look like a wedding dress.
Your going to be able to tell a bride appart from a guest as they will have a big gown on. but if a guest was to go in a big all white/ivory gown like a dinner dress or something then not only would the guest look a bit out of place but would look silly so its best for the guest just to wear a summer dress not too over the top just right an appropriate for a wedding.
2007-06-10 04:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to upstage a bride - just behave badly.
Cause a scene. wear something outlandish or inappropriate like widows weeds - or make huge sobbing sounds as the couple says their vows. Burst out in great wails as they are pronounced husband and wife...
Or worse yet - stand up and object when the minister asks If anyone has a reason why these two should not be married...
And then get drunk at the wedding and barf all over the bride or groom. Knock over the cake. Spill the punch bowl, tip over the buffet table.
Yep. there's a lot of ways a bride can be upstaged - not just by wearing white.
2007-06-08 04:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was always told only the bride should wear white to the wedding, but 3 other people wore white to mine and one was an entire white pantsuit. But, it didn't matter. Everyone is going to be paying attention to the bride and groom, not the other guests.
2007-06-08 04:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kris H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is viewed as serious in the Uk. One of my friends who is really, really pretty wore a white dress to another friend's wedding. EVERYONE was talking about her, even to people who didn't go to the wedding! It was obvious she was trying to upstage the bride, not pretend to be her, but look better than her. Only the bride should wear white.
2007-06-08 03:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by magic_porridge_pot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a wedding that I attended last summer, the MOH wore a OFF-WHITE DRESS! She looked like another bride and prom queen, not to count it was not age appropiate..the bride was ashamed and apologized privately to her guests in the reception for the MOH's lack of common and fashion sense. I wouldn't say that she upstaged her, but definetly embarrased herself and the bride by being the "other" bride. It was the talk of the party.
Good luck
2007-06-08 04:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about getting them confused, it's about them looking fantastic and the guests looking a little less so! lol My sister ALWAYS tries to upstage the bride. For her best friend wedding she got a white, figure hugging and very low cut floor length armani dress, had her hair put up by hairdressers and got a spray tan. Quite crule since her friend had just had a baby and had to return her gorgeous wedding dress for a looser style. Needless to say they are not exactly best buddies anymore!
2007-06-08 03:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by gellygoggles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not wearing white is about not being a bride 'wannabe', it's bot that you would confuse the bride with a guest but more that the bride stand out more if she is the only one in white/cream
I do think this is taken as seriously in the UK, I was at a weding at the weekend adn someone turned up in a pale gold dress with a low cut front, didn't go down very well, she looked like she was dressed up as a bride.
basically it comes across as attention seeking
2007-06-08 03:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jody W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋