Chidren asking difficult Qs ----- how did you do.?

Question

Your children must have asked you many "difficult to explain" questions which they won't understand when explained sceintifically or otherwise.. How did U do in such condn.

Answer 1

I didn't "turn it off". Try to look on this as your golden opportunity to help your child grow. My son never asked why, he always said, "How does this work?" He was trying to learn and that's a gift! Give your child the best age-appropriate answer possible while still being truthful. If you don't know, simply say that you don't and ..."isn't it a wonderful mystery? Maybe we can find a book about it in the library."
Sometimes kids just keep firing questions at you to keep your attention on them instead of what you are doing. In that case, find a way for them to participate in what you are doing or at least give them an activity wherever you are so that you can converse back with them.
These questions are an opportunity for learning and the more patience you have now the more likely your child will continue to ask intelligent questions and learn when he/she gets to school.

Answer 2

What kind of difficult questions?

I mean, it's just as difficult to explain the digestive system as it is to explain where babies come from.

But let's start with the where babies come from.

I guess I was lucky - When my son was 5, we lived on a farm with livestock. We borrowed a buck goat to service our doe goats. When I turned him loose with the girls, he went right to work - in front of my son and me. He was amazed - so all I could say was, "Well, I'd hoped to break this news a little more gently - but that's how baby goats are made. And since humans are mammals - that's pretty much how your dad and I made you." Fortunately he was OK with that.

But you might not be quite so lucky. So, ask them - "Do you want the long story or the short story?" And then "Do you want the fairy tale or the real truth?"

The fairy tale - the stork brought you or I found you under a cabbage leaf. The truth - "Babies are part one parent and part the other parent. That's why you look like me sometimes - and sometimes you look like Mummy. Your mummy and I each donated half of the ingredients to make you - and then you grew in mummy's special place near her stomach called a uterus until you were big enough to come out into the world as a baby. Grown ups who care for and love each other a lot - as mummy and I do - will often want to share that love by making a baby. Sometimes parents want to share their love with more than one child - that's how you get sisters and brothers. It's part of the way things are - it's one way families are made. Now you may have friends who were "adopted." That's when people who can't have children by themselves will welcome a different child into their family to love and care for. They're a family too. Families are made in other ways too - maybe a child lives with his grandparents or aunt and uncle. Maybe a child lives with just one parent. They're all families. The key is making sure children are loved."

Of course, that's just one explanation.

The key is not getting too uptight about it - or making your children think that this is dirty or wrong or sinful. The more laid back you are about reproduction, the more plausible your explanations will be. If you hem and haw and get all uptight - they will get the impression that what you and mummy are doing is somehow wrong.

Answer 3

The one thing that I think is important to remember that is if your kids are coming to ask questions be THANKFUL! Answer them as age appropriately, and honestly as possible. Trust me - if you don't answer them they will get the information somewhere and sometimes they get some pretty bad answers!
My second daughter is 11 and they are learning about health and sexuality at school --- oy vey -- the questions this kid has.....God Bless her - she is smart and inquisitive, but Mom needs a drink (lots and lots of drinks actually!). I answer her honestly - why leave her thinking that sexuality is a big mystery she needs to find out about. Be honest, sincere, and focus on your values.
I took the same approach with my oldest who is now 20 -- and a virgin. I would like to think that it was because there was no big mystery in it for her and she understands that her body is the one thing that if she gives it away she can never get it back. More than likely it's because she is a strong independent young woman who wants more from life than a man and kids.

Answer 4

If I do know the scientific answer to their difficult question I will give them the scientific answer. If they persue it, they will break it down at which time I explain each item in the broken down question. Dont babytalk or over-simplify the answers. And above all dont give them some kind of satisfactory blow-off answer.
One example: When my first son was about 3 he asked why I wear glasses. I told him that I dont see very well and they are medicine for my eyes.
It may seem time consuming and annoying at times, but they are developing their minds. We, as parents, want to spend as much time as needed to develop their minds, body and spirit to be the best they can be.
Give them a challenge. If they ask a question, you might ask them, "Why do you think__?" Create a dialogue so they are not only gathering data but using their cognative brain to work things out for themselves.

Answer 5

There is always a way to explain things to a child in terms that they can understand.

Physical, scientific & biological are easy.

Ideas, feelings, behavior are harder, but can usually be brought down to something they can understand by using analogies that they can relate to their own life experiences, by asking them to imagine themselves in whatever the situation is (or in a parallel situation that a child would experience).

Answer 6

• Well, in that case you explain it as easily as you can and let them know that after they grow a little older they will understand it better themselves. Also, try to divert them with some other thoughts that they understand. Do not, Please just do not lie or make up answers. This affects your children’s knowledge and when they realize that you were lying they stop trusting you.

Answer 7

Answer them the best you can. Also, make sure you know exactly what they want. When asked "Where do I come from?" one guy went into a long detailed explanation of the human reproductive process. Finishing, he asked his son if he understood.
"I think so." he said, "But Bobby said he came from California. I was just wondering where we came from."
Just tell them the truth, but on a level they will understand.

Answer 8

I always try and do age appropriate explanations, and i buy a book with pictures, like when my mom died i bought the book "when dinosaurs die". Theres a whole series of them, that way i can read it and if they dont want to hear me or dont understand, they can look at the book and pictures. Hardest one was about my aunt, shes a lesbian and my daughter asked about marrying her best female friend cause she loved her

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I don't have children but I found a good web site recently that helps with difficult questions from kids. www.talkingwithkids.org.