I brought a beautiful latte bridal gown, my princess gown!
My mum though has now told me NO i have to wear white so i look like a virgin!!! I think it's my day i can wear what i like, but who's right? (also i'm so white myself i look like a ghost wearing white) HELP!
2007-06-08 02:07:47 · 32 answers · asked by Evening 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wear what YOU are comfortable in and what YOU feel pretty in!
Show your mom all the different bridal gowns that come in Pink, Blue, Yellow, Red, Black, Cranberry......would she rather you pick one of those more definitive colors?
My dress is an off white and I love it, wouldn't change it for the world.
I'm like you...PALE white w/coal black hair and REALLY dark brown eyes....wearing pure white makes me look so sallow and sick....
Just talk to your mom and explain that the rules have changed as far as gown color etiquette goes, and you feel better/prettier in the gown you have chosen....and if THAT doesnt work and she REALLY gives you a hard time, go for the shock value and tell her you're NOT a virgin...that'll shut her up! LMAO!!!
Stick to your guns!
Congratulations!
2007-06-08 02:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pink Princess has it exactly right there, it only became fashionable because of Queen Victoria, if only she had married in pink or blue then none of this pressure would be on brides!! Times are changing, white no longer has anything to do with virginity, in fact in India it is worn as a funeral colour. This is your big day, this is your dream dress, your princess gown and ultimately it is your choice what you wear to your wedding. I'm not saying be rude about it, but be firm and say as much as you appreciate what your mother is saying you really want to wear the latte dress. Apart from anything it is no ones business whether you are a virgin or not, that's information that is private to you.
2007-06-08 03:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom it's not 1890 anymore!! Virgin thing is over.. no one cares or actually thinks about that stuff anymore... Wear what every color you want. My friend Dee had the same issue with her father being a minister. But her Latte gown was still so light it photographed white!! No one noticed or commented either. You need to get what looks the best on you. I am wearing Champagne and I am also very pale. I looked dead in the white dresses.
2007-06-08 02:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
White is the traditional color for a bride, but I don't believe people are as strict about it anymore. I've seen a lot of cream colored gowns, and even ones with other colors in the stitching or the gown itself.
If this latte colored dress is the one that makes you feel pretty and shows off your coloring, then I would wear it. Maybe try it on for your mom so she can see how beautiful and radiant you are in it!
2007-06-08 02:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I wore ivory the first time (7 months pregnant). Husband now deceased. I wore royal purple the second time (now divorced) and sage green the third time (happy, happy!) None of my dresses were bridal gowns. I wasn't opposed to white - I was opposed to the frivolity and pompousness of a traditional wedding dress. I don't think it's anybody's business if a woman is a virgin on her wedding day and she should not have to advertize her sexual status by the color of her gown. I also don't think anybody really cares about what color dress the bride wears... Do you really believe that all the women you've seen wear a white dress are virgins?
2016-05-19 22:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by gay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I went wedding dress shopping with my mom, we were both set on my wearing white. Then I got a gown to try on that was ivory with cafe detail work. "Can she get it in white?" was the first question my mom asked. I tried it on, and it looked really good. I too have really pale skin. The bridal consultant actually said that 75% of brides do NOT wear white. They actually call ivory and other off-white shades "diamond white" to get around the parents opposition to the non-white wedding dress. Also, as long as you aren't standing next to others in white (and you shouldn't - it is your wedding day) and don't get stark white table linens, most people won't notice. By the end of the day, my mom was swearing that the ivory and cafe dress was actually white until I stood next to a bright white dress. So talk to your mom and just tell her that you want to look your best. Did she go shopping with you? If not, take her to a bridal store and try on different dress colors. By the end, if she doesn't agree that you look better in a non-white dress, then don't feel guilty and just wear your dress proudly. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding and best of luck!
2007-06-08 02:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by maryanlibrarian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your day and if you choose to wear a latte color it's your choice. People always associate the color white to purity or virginity. Centuries ago woman wore colors on their wedding day - even red! It wasn't until Queen Victoria got married that started the trend to wear white on your wedding day. Think of it as if she was a celebrity in her day. Everybody loved Jessica Simpson's wedding bouquet and had to have something like it . Well, Queen Victoria just started a trend that continues until this day. So wear what you want and suits YOU best! Good Luck and Congratulations!
2007-06-08 03:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by holmeskaykay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the lovliest brides I ever saw wore rose pink.
The white wedding gown, while a tradition for young, virginal brides for about two centuries and for most brides over the last fifty years or so, is not an absolute requirement. And if you're going to look bad in white, well, I'd advise avoiding it.
Tell your mother this gown makes you look and feel wonderful. In the longrun, that's the important thing.
Oh, and you might also mention to your mother that for some forty years of westward expansion in nineteenth century America, the single most popular color for wedding gowns was...plaid.
2007-06-08 02:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding day you should wear whatever dress you want. It doesn't matter what color it is. As long as it makes you happy. You don't have to wear white it's an old tradition not a rule. Just talk to your mom tell her you understand why she wants you in white but that it's just not for you. Once you find the dress you want nothing else will compare to it. Stick to what you and your soon to be husband want for everything to do with the wedding.
2007-06-08 02:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by tjmoore83102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wear what you like!
White being the color of virginity is crap. That is NOT why people wore white. People wore white because it was a color of wealth. White didn't stay clean long, and it showed that you had the money to waste on a dress you would only wear a few times. Something about Queen Victoria made it popular.....if I recall correctly.
2007-06-08 03:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋