my sister said what?

Question

Two weeks ago me oler sister moved out becuase her and my parents got into an arguement. Then we found out yesterday that she has been telling everyone she talks to that my dad abused her because she was adpted and that he also pulled a gun on her! None of these are true but everyone keeps asking me about it! So today is her graduation ceremony and i really don't want to go because i really hate her for what seh is telling people and trying to trar apart my family. But my mom and aunt are going and they want me to go with them. what should I do?

Answer 1

Hmmmmm.......She needs counseling.
I say do what YOU feel. Being a parent and being a sibling come with different feelings of obligation. You Mom feels obligated no doubt, because it is one of her children. However, I don't think you should be held to the same obligation as a sib.

Answer 2

Go to the ceremony. Her graduation is an accomplishment aside from anything else. After the ceremony or tomorrow talk to her about what has been said. Ask her why she said she was adopted when you can easily prove she wasnt and then why she said those things about your dad. Now I dont know what she is going to do but is there any chance she is going to be a fiction writer in the future. maybe she is working on a book, if not she has some problems you need to help her work through.

Answer 3

You should go because she is your sister.But it doesn't mean you are on her side. But give her some respect even though she doesn't deserve it and be nice.

The hurtful things she said about your dad will last forever but that was her choice when she let her temper get the best of her. It shows how much disrespect she has for her dad because it's not nice to say about anybody. If it were true, she should have dealt with it privately because she wouldn't want her own reputation to be damaged in the process. What does say about her future? Is she going to blame him for everything wrong in her life? This isn't just between her and your father anymore because she went around telling everybody so she is trying to hurt everybody who knows your dad including family and friends. It puts your family's name in shame. I don't think she has a good head on her shoulders.

Answer 4

First I'd talk to her face to face, sometime before the ceremony. If you guys were close before this, I would try to come to some sort of agreement. I wouldnt miss her graduation because somewhere down the line, you might regret it, u know? I would tell her how you feel about the whole situation. If you really feel strongly about not going, then dont but Id seriously think about it. You have to repair your relationship first though, thats most important.

Answer 5

Go to her graduation do not bring up the bad way she is acting. Do give her a hug and tell her how important she is to you and how much you love her. She loves you and her family and arguing with her will give her the fuel she needs to continue with her bad behavior but showing her love will weaken her anger and maybe make her ashamed of what she has done. Remember there are times you fight with your sister but when you really need her she always has your back this might be the time she needs you to have her back even if she is wrong. I know because of a lifetime of fighting with and loving my sisters.

Answer 6

Don't spoil her graduation. Go with your aunt and Mom and save the confronting for a later time when she might be more open and willing to share what's really underneath her slanderous statements. There must be a painful issue or hurt that is compelling her to say these hurtful things about your dad.

Answer 7

Just go there along with your mom or else its gonna make your mom fell bad about you....If you think that your sister's bad dont go there for her...tell her if she asks that you were out to bring some grocery or anything and just dropped by to pick up your mom..

if this doesnt work...try contacting a parenting counsellor

Answer 8

I would go, I'm not saying it's true what she's saying but if it is true, you probably wouldn't know.
Also, there must be a reason why she's telling things like this. Not meaning that your dad actually did this, I mean that she most be very angry or something.
You don't know what goes on inside her head, don't judge her until you've talked to hear!!!!!

Answer 9

People say and do things when they are younger because they are immature. Your sister will regret her actions later.

Your mom and aunt are smart. They understand these things. I say try to get past the things she said and be the bigger person. You might need her one day, and she certainly seems to need her family.

Answer 10

I think you should tell your parents what she is saying...those are horrible things to spread around about family and horrible things to say to get people to feel sorry for you. you should confront your sister and ask her why shes lieing to everyone. this is something that needs to be talked about with everyone together and sitting down. she sounds like she wats people to think certain things about her and I dont know if shes trying to get attention..but those are the wrong things to say to get attention.