Husbands medicine preventing pregnancy... How to cope?

Question

My hubby and I have been married 4 years. We have no kids and have been trying for almost a year. He's taking medicine for depression for PTSD/anxiety/epilepsy due to a severe head injury a couple of years ago. (Problems have stemmed from adding an anti-depressant recently.)

Anyhow, we've tried about 10 different medications, but each had the same side effect. ** TMI WARNING **He is able to get an erection but unable to ejaculate. I know it's nothing else, because the problems start day 1 of taking the medicine. Then we would stop it, wait a week, and try another medicine. Same thing- first day, same problem. He is so hypersensitive to medications, and gets a lot of side affects.

I just lost my father, and my mother committed suicide in '03 after a decade long battle with M.S. A baby would really fill a void inside of me and would complete our family. It's been all I can think of for almost a year now.

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It's hard not to be angry at him, but I know it's not his fault. I just feel like it will never happen, and that is devastating to me. Has anyone been through this? How did you cope?

Answer 1

It sounds simple , but...

have you considered adoption (either foreign or domestic) and/or becoming a foster parent?

If your husband's health depends on these medications, and he isn't projected to be off them any time soon, how about considering some other options for completing your family?

Best of luck to you,
~M~

p.s. In the meantime, you may be wise to consider seeking out some supportive services for yourself. Losing both a mother, a father, and (potentially) the chance to have a biological child represents SIGNIFICANT loss. In addition, you are caring for a spouse with significant psychological and physical issues. Psychotherapy and/or peer support groups may be an incredible help to you.

Answer 2

You love the man and realize he needs the medication for a quality of life. Many, but not all psychotropic medications as well as other medications like those for hypertension, diabetes and prostate problems, cause impotence.

If you want a child that badly, adopt a child who desperately would need a loving home. You are just as much of a mother, loved and needed, by an adopted child as a biological one.

As before you do have a child, you need to seek counseling for those issues from your family. The child is not there to fill "the void." You need to resolve those issue to ensure you are a better and more support parent of the needs of the child, and not yourself.

Answer 3

What are you doing? Don't be ridiculous, go to the health department and get some birth control and use condoms, those will prevent pregnancy, not worm medicine.

Answer 4

i think ull have to go for a assisted reproductive technique.. like iui( http://www.sharedjourney.com/iui.html )or ivf( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/In_vitro_fertilisation )... iui is cheaper(2000-3000$) as compared to ivf(15000$).. these r per cycle rates.. and u may need 2-3 cycles.. but most clinics have a cost share technique(check this.. http://www.advancedfertility.com/ivfriskshare.htm )
its basically takin some sperms of ur husband and implanting it in ur fallopian tubes at the time of ovulation
if u go abroad like in india u can get these proceedures much much cheaper
(iui- 700$, ivf- 2000$ ).