i have been talking to this boy on the phone for about a week and we have so much chemistry. we would speak on the phone from 9pm to 1:30ish in the morning on a school night. he tells me how different i am from the other girls he talked to or had dated. but the best thing he said to me is that he could see himself inlove with me in the future. But i'm always calling him he calls me sometimes but it's not good enough. i told him to call me yesterday but he didn't. so i didn't call him either, am i overreacting.
2007-06-08 01:14:55 · 11 answers · asked by Rundis19 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to "tell him" to call you then that would get to be old hat very quickly.
He should be initiating contact with you on his own.
Yes you are overreacting since I am sure there will be times that you tell him you will call and then don't because you got tied up with other things.
Let him call you sometimes but do not play games.
If you want to call do so but do not overwhelm him with a call every day.
You need to be confident and comfortable with yourself regardless of with whom you are talking.
Relax, enjoy the first flush of a budding relationship even if it only turns out to be a great friendship.
2007-06-08 01:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA! Back off. You are being extremely clingy. Guys HATE that. You are going to ruin it!! You are overreacting because guys do not like to talk on the phone. After talking once for 4 hours, I wouldn't want to talk to that person for a week!! lol. But seriously...just go out a do stuff with your friends so that you arent waiting around for his phone calls. If he says "ill call you" then let him. Don't be pushy!!
2007-06-08 08:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Ray Ray 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends, some guys are shy even if others don't see it. My son is 16 and has tons of friends that are girls, and a lot of girls want to date him. He'll talk on the phone for hours. But her rarely calls them. For some reason he's afraid he'll bother them, or the girl wouldn't want to talk because if she did, she would have called. When she does call, he'll drop everything. So keep that in mind, he may like you so much and think you are so awesome that you kind of intimidate him.
2007-06-08 08:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by his.grace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are; you might want to slow down a bit. Give him a chance to call you; it doesn't have to be everyday where you talk for hours on end. He may be catching up on studies, or lost sleep. Your education should come first, then your relationship. Give yourself some time, to at least finish school, before you decide to get involved in a committed relationship. There are many guys out there, and you might want to allow yourself some time to see who's out there. Good luck!
2007-06-08 08:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. In fact, you need to do that more often. And hang out with other people - on a date with another boy, out in a crowd. In other words, broaden your scope.
Sure, it's fine to have a preferred fellow - but what happens if you've built your world around him - and then you break up, or you move or go away to school or he joins the military? What's going to happen then? So even with a preferred fellow, you should have more friends than just him to talk to.
2007-06-08 08:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair or sensible for you to be putting up conditions at this stage - and that's what you're doing.
Remember: when you make the call, you get to decide when you feel like it. If he calls you, it might be a bad time. It's a benefit.
Are you sure he's not just a little shy, or some other simple explanation? Maybe he forgot.
Yes, you're overreacting.
CD
2007-06-08 08:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've never met in person and you are going overboard already? Take a deep breath. It sounds like you are really desperate. That's a sure way to drive him off esp. if you are "always calling him". You may have scared him off already.
2007-06-08 08:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope just wait till he calls you, he is probably tied up with some things.
Guys always wait to call.
2007-06-08 08:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you are. Give this relationship time to grow on it's own. If you push too much, you may push him away.
2007-06-08 08:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not seeing him then yes you are overreacting.
2007-06-08 08:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋