I dated this guy on and off for about 1 1/2 years. We both are stubborn and have a short temper. On some occasions i have feared for my safety when his anger becomes overbearing. I have told him that he scares me because sometimes he would make threats like "if you were a guy i would hit you" and once i remember saying if you're going to hurt me, just do it! He held my throat and stopped short. He has also become increasingly addicted to gambling. Do men like this change or get worse? I have always told him that if he ever hit me i'd be gone, end of story and thats when he calms down. If he ever wanted me back, should i bother with this man?
2007-06-08 01:05:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you out of your mind???
He's grabbed your throat, threatened to hit you, you're afraid for your safety and you even have to ASK if you should be anywhere near him? Come on!!
People like this do NOT change, they will only keep getting worse until they hit rock bottom, and even then it may not be enough to wake them up.
2007-06-08 01:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what it is that actually makes him appealing to you, but he sure sounds like a time bomb if you ask me. I think you have to listen to your gut on this one. If you are questioning whether or not this would be worth it, then it probably isn't. I'm glad to hear that you wouldn't let any man hurt you, but if you can avoid putting yourself in a dangerous situation to being with, then I would hope you would choose that route. The gambling issues are a whole different scene. Addicts are very hard people to deal with (I'm not saying that can't be dealt with though) and if he is not ready to change, you will be in for a long road of recovery ahead. In my opinion I would let this one pass.
2007-06-08 01:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by xjewel903x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid?!?! The situations are only going to get worse. He's just grabbing your throat now, but in a year or so, he will be holding you down a choking you. Move on. I hate when women put themselves in these positions...you are just asking for domestic abuse!!! Get out, get someone new, and forget him.
2007-06-08 01:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ray Ray 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems pretty well self centered on himself and focused on gambling and not you. Unless he can control his gambling habit then he cannot control himself or allow himself to become involved with anyone emotionally. If it were me I would find someone else because one day he will hurt you physically.
2007-06-08 01:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by enthemood4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! you should know better now...that guy will or will not change but i don't think the fear inside you will vanish if ever you'll get back to him.be strong and find a real nice guy that will take care of you and make sure wont hurt you.
2007-06-08 01:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by deepthinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should not he is violent and dangerous and could become worse they never change they only get more violent . Love does not hurt and should never hurt . that is not love what you have . Move on and find someone who will treat you like you should be treated .
2007-06-08 01:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
Lets see....
U fear for you life, u scared when u with him, he makes threats, he has already hurt you....
No sweetie, dont waste your time with a guy like this. Move on to brighter, NICER, men who are going to treat you right!
2007-06-08 01:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by BadGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No time to move on. theres no point in that. U can't make a person change a person can only change when they themselves want to Change.
2007-06-08 01:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by bunnygrl43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋