I'm going out tonight with some friends, and have invited another guy who knows everyone, but someone who I only met last weekend. He's also the brother of a good friend of mine. I really fancy him, & from his texts I think he likes me too.
But, I've had a messy break-up 3 weeks ago with my horrid ex, who reduced me to a nervous wreck. He's also part of the group of friends (but won't be out tonight).
I'm concerned.
a) Is it too soon to pull someone else?
b) Is it a bit risky doing it with someone who is connected to my group of friends?
c) I have been suffering depression from childhood trauma, that was excentuated by being with a moron who bullied me. I'm feeing much more upbeat & back to the old me, but am worried my friends might alert this man to the problems I've been experiencing & he will run 4 the hills.
I'm pretty sure he fancies me, he's been text flirting. If he makes advances on me tonight, shall I just go for it? I'm excited for 1st time in months
2007-06-07 23:54:13 · 19 answers · asked by rollacoasta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeh! why not ..go for it,,... mind and stick a Condom on Him...
2007-06-07 23:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go Out is the anwser - but not with him - u just out a bad situation with a fool tht disrespected u for u - y dont u have fun with urself and ur friends and have U time, the minute u start looking u try to impress - when u TRY to impress u not urself - go out be U and only U and U will see if he is attracted 2 who U r then u take it from there. Actually u already invited him, he knows every1 so he dont need entertainment - he will find it in u if u just be U
2007-06-08 07:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by baby blu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 yes , #2 yes/no , #3 maybe part of your problem is that
you feel like your old self ( life)and that's what you return to
like a dog that returns to its vomit and eats of it . You need
to change for the better and not the worse . You need some
time off to experience new good things and get a life to find
out who you are . The last commit sounds like your getting
paid for the date !! is that what you think of yourself , he sure
will when your done in that minute and still have tomorrow
a head of you . Stop , think , and don't throw yourself at anyone again . You are worth it and better than that , so give
yourself a chance and , take the time to do so , Amen....
2007-06-08 07:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by S.O.T.C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right go for it. There is no set time period for getting over people especially a moron like you were with. It is always a risk to date a friend as it could ruin your friendship should you not work out and if he runs for the hills about your past then he isnt worth knowing. The only way to know if you will work is if you go for it. Good luck
2007-06-08 07:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by HeatherzFeatherz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go, get dressed in your nicest outfit, and have a great time. Make sure everyone knows that you are having a good time, so that your ex hears about it, just to make him realize what he lost!! Don't go for any sexual advances, however, it is too soon. If he wants to know why you are not getting too close, just tell him that you really like him, but you are just trying to get past a bad relationship before you get too close to someone new.
2007-06-08 07:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fancy and fantasy have a close connection.
When the bubble bursts,at the end of the day,he is just another bloke,and what he flirts and says just maybe different to what he wants,but you will only find the truth out after you give in.
Stick to reality.
2007-06-08 07:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would play it cooll with him tonight, go easy on the drinking so you dont go and get drunk and make a fool of yourself by saying something you dont really want to say. no its not too soon as long as you feel that is what you want and you like him, let him do the chasing its nice to let the man do it and then you will know he wants to see you etc!
maybe just flirt and chat with him!
as for the childhood stuff do you/have you see/n some one that you can talk to about this?
2007-06-08 06:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bubblygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for it. It may be worth letting him know about your messy break up, but make light of it, and malke sure he's aware you are over it.
If your friends try to put him off you by telling him about your problems, then they aren't real friends. Perhaps it may be worth having a chat witht hem before hand to make sure they don't shout their mouths off.
Good luck.
2007-06-08 07:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by Emma W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there with the horrid ex, done that unfortunately. I say go for it, it sounds like you deserve a bit of fun and happiness. good luck and dont let the ex grind you down.
2007-06-08 07:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by chameleonsoup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're excited and it'll make you happy go for it. But only if a) you can handle rejection b) you know what you're in for and c) you won't try and get all serious about it. Have fun!
2007-06-08 06:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dive in too fast especially if your on the rebound. Have fun though, you've got the right to be excited, good luck
2007-06-08 06:57:19 · answer #11 · answered by simon j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋