my mum is the most nicest and down to earth person you will ever meet, she is going out with this man who does not know how to treat her properly. they have been going out now for 5 years and all he does is take her for granted. he drinks quite a lot and everytime hes drunk he shouts at her and blames her for everything. he sides with people over her in any kind of dispute and chats other women up infront of her and thinks its funny the next day. he rarely shows her affection (although to be honest i dont know what hes like when they are alone) and never tells her how nice she looks when she wears new clothes or has her hair styled. the thing is she loves him and cannot imagine her life without him in it, she isnt blind to the way he treats her and yet she wonn leav him. me my brother and sister cannot say anything to persuade her to leave him.please someone give me some advice as to how i can make her life better
2007-06-07 22:18:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Though it must be sooo hard - my mum was in the same situation about 3 yrs ago, it's difficult to get involved without upsettng your mum. She is an adult and only she can decide. I'm know you are there for her hight and lows and that is about all you can be.. Hope she and you find hapiness and agreement x
2007-06-08 03:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tiger01204 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum is dependant on this kind of behavior. Was your biological father like this? Has she had a string of men treat her poorly or leave? Generally, these are insecurities that are learned as young children as an effect of our parent's relationships or how our parent's treated us. Or just the way she remembers being treated in an early relationship. Very simply: You crave a challenge. If he treats her too well, she will feel emotionally unfulfilled. She relies on his instability as a drug - he yells, she scurries around trying to fix it, and it ends in a climactic drama. Next time he tells her he loves her, she feels as though she has really earned it. I don't know how old you are, but the best way for you and your brother to 'help' is to sit her down and have her make a choice. As her children, you should be valuable enough in her life to create a change. Well, that's what she needs to hear. Tell her how much it is bothering you (write a letter if its too hard to talk) to be with this man. This will at least make her feel a bit irresponsible as a mother for being selfish enough to keep playing these games in front of her children. As a woman yourself, you can also explain that you are afraid that her behaviour will be your only model and you would prefer NOT to have that as a model.
2007-06-08 05:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by pudgy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I think is ur Mom is in madly love with this Man. Love is blind. Better you ask your mom and clearly understand her mind. What she actually wants from this man. And after all if ur mom is happy with him then i think dont interfere with their lifes.
2007-06-08 05:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by abhijit j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that man doesnt respect your mother!!!maybe,she's afraid to leave.trust me,coz i was once in this kind of a relationship.i knew he didnt respect me as a person and ii knew the relationship wasnt working.but i forced myself to believe that if i only tried harder,he'll change.but he didnt.don't worry too much,i'm sure that one day,your mum will dump him.always happens like that.
2007-06-08 05:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by aZaLea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you saw him cheating on her. dunno how else you can make it happen
ps. you are gorgeous.
pss. i love applesauce
2007-06-08 05:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋