I started having a casual, sexual relationship with a friend about six weeks ago. I've known him about three years and he's always been a bit of a Jack the Lad while I've known him. We've started going out quite often together (just drinking) and I stay the night at his. He wants me to go away with him for a week to London in a couple of months to his friend's wedding. The other night he said he was "sort of falling for me". I want to believe it but don't know whether I should. What do you think from your own experience?
2007-06-07 21:53:53 · 14 answers · asked by villafan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should go because if you don't he might meet a tastier and fitter bird than you. If you go you can make sure he don't have the energy to hook up with anyone else.
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2007-06-07 21:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was jack the lad in the past but what you should think about is how he is in the present. he has asked you on a trip that is quite a big thing and from my limited experience it takes a lot of building too for a guy to admit he is falling for a girl especially if youve known each other for a while asit could risk losing you if you didnt feel the same. by the sound of things he must have thought you were worth the risk!!! go for it good luck
michael x
2007-06-08 05:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by michael_oneill2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a very difficult area, and I understand why you are reluctant to believe that he really is falling for you. All I would say from experience is that you can get to a point where you over-analyse this kind of relationship and it takes all the fun out of it. If its possible, just try to let it go wherever it will go without reading too much into anything he says or does. If he really means it he will bring it up again and you will get a chance to ask him how serious he is, and what he means by it.
2007-06-08 04:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself "casual, sexual relationship." Go anyways, it'll be fun, but don 't "start falling for him" - if you have known him for 3 years and he has always been a certain way - you seem like a cool girl and all but you would be the first woman in history to "change" a man.
2007-06-08 04:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by so Fresh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. You've know him 3 years, you said you know his game. If you can keep the sex separate from love, fine. If not, save yourself the pain and stop selling yourself short.
But if you truly want to give your 'relationship' a chance, stop the drinking and casual sex... do things together... lunch, dinner, meet friends, go to shows, go shopping, hiking... whatever else that lets you interact to know the man behind the penis.
Keep your options open and see other men and do things besides sex. You deserve better and you deserve to have more substance.
2007-06-08 05:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by nightowl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well iv never had a casual relationship like this! I think it would end up with someone getting hurt! But if you feel the same take the risk and trust in him a bit! Never know, he could be the one!
2007-06-08 04:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by emzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur sleeping with the guy, and spending lots of time together... so if he's falling for u, so what - all the better..
it's upto u if u want to believe it or not, but my advice would be, if u do believe it (or even if u don't), don't act on it and start falling for him too - let him fall for u.. let him go all crazy about u... but when u start feeling the same.. that's when things go wrong.
nothing wrong with how it is now.. enjoy life and stay happy
2007-06-08 05:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is sending mixed signals, proceed with caution! I wouldn't fall too hard for this guy, ever heard the expression "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" :)
2007-06-08 04:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
casual...sexual. One of these things is not like the other, one of these things just doesn't belong. One of these things is not like the other, can you tell me which one before I finish my song?
2007-06-08 05:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by bg4gb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place, do you love the boy, if yes, give yourself ampple time to monitor if the boy is really in it (if he is serious)
2007-06-08 05:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by gibbschirwa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋