My friends don approve of it,they say i don know wats his intention.But i love him dearly and he does too,and for goodness's sake i think almost three years is enough for me to trust him or?So should i listen to my heart and giv in to him?or should i follow my friends and wait first?
2007-06-07 20:43:10 · 15 answers · asked by Tuma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are relying on your friends to tell you whether you feel ready or not, then maybe communication between you two isn't what it should or could be?
You've been together for 2 and a half years now - that should make you feel secure enough with him to talk to him directly about any feelings you have, without looking to your friends first.
Tell him that you feel a bit apprehensive - if your relationship is ready for the next step, he should be able to reassure you properly himself.
2007-06-07 21:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by altaplomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart--only you REALLY know what's right for you, your friends are not part of your relationship with him--they probably don't know him the way you do.
That said, you may want to find out why your friends are doubting his good intentions even after more than 2 years... normally that would be proof of his feelings--why else would he be with you for so long? If they are so unsure, maybe they have reason to be. So ask. Weigh in what they may tell you, but in the end, you have to follow your heart :)
2007-06-08 03:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by *Do*You*Believe* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think since you have already waited you can wait some more there is no need for you to rush into it even though you have been together for nearly three years . I want to be honest with you coz being with each other for long doesnot count for anything coz I have seen guyz wait for that long and ruin a good thing later so wait
2007-06-08 04:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by sasmom07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your friends going to "give in" or is that your issue? If it is your issue, consult with your own heart...and mind. And act accordingly. AS far as "trust" is concerned, that is something you will have to decide for yourself. Does it matter if he runs away afterwards? What if he does? You will have had what you want...and he will have had what he wants. Both of you will have found some completion in the relationship. Are you looking for a life-time commitment from him? if so, ask for it. If not, don't worry about it. Enjoy this relationship as it is, and as it lasts. And, be true to yourself, not your friends.
2007-06-08 03:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're married. Here's why. You've waited all this time and thankfully he has respected you. If you sleep with him, now, he will no longer respect you and more importantly, you won't respect yourself for having sexual relations BEFORE marriage. What would you have to look forward to on your honeymoon if you have sex with him now? Furthermore, chances are you won't marry him because he will no longer respect you in the same way. Soooo, how would you explain to the man you do marry, why you are not a virgin ???
2007-06-08 03:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Cheech 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where did you meet? maybe your friends don't approve because, let's say, you met him in a bar. maybe your friends don't think it's proper. How long have you been together? that matters too...3 years right? well in my opinion i think you should let him wait for a minimum of 3 months. get to know the real him. has he done something bad or the like? you should know him really well...
2007-06-08 03:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by miakah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must follow your freinds advise you should wait to the right time I guess he will understand and respect you at the same time.Dont just give yourself easily okey think about it........if ever you do that do you think you are ready to face the cosequence of everything? if not....control your feeling ,there is another way of showing your love not taking a risky step and it might be possible of leading you into a big trouble.
2007-06-08 03:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by *Liezel* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always risks, however if you are attracted to him and have passion, let yourself go. I have never known anyone's friends who approve of this no matter how solid the relationship. Listen to you heart.
2007-06-08 03:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really a personal decision. But you need to see it from the guy's perspective: We have certain needs, and three years is a long time to wait. I would do it.
2007-06-08 03:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by DeletedBlahBlah1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what YOU feel is right not what your friends think or say......after all its not their life its yours & your right almost 3 years is a long time for him to wait & still remain faithful, I say go for it, I think he deserves your trust
2007-06-08 03:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by *♥* ♥* FaeGoddess*♥*♥* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋