If my son was assigned a project or entered a school contest, do you think it would be right if i completed?

Question

the project for him? and allowed him to take credit because he really wants to win?

Actually i am trying to make a subtle point relating to a question i answered about 4 questions back about a crazy hat.

Answer 1

No...just because other parents stoop to that level, doesn't mean you have to as well. A child needs to learn how to do things for themselves & complete all of their schoolwork on their own. If he wins, he can be proud of himself without having to give the credit to you. If he doesn't win, he will always know that he completed it on his own & he tried his best.

I think parents these days are so focused on winning, they don't realize that their kid needs to be a kid & grow up learning to be disappointed but walking away with pride. If we do everything for them now, how are they going to get by in the workplace...it will be a rude awakening & that's not fair to your kids.

Good luck! Hope you do the right thing!

Answer 2

that as far as I am concerned is wrong. Who cares if he really wants to win. You win some you lose some, it is not just a saying. A child should win on their own merit. There should be none or very limited input from parents. It is your job as a parent to help your child learn to be a gracious loser as well as winner. Parents are not letting their kids learn resilience these days. What is going to happen in the future and these kids are at work and have to have something done in time and done right. Are they going to come running to mummy and Daddy?? No they will have to do it themselves. Let him do it himself and have pride in knowing that even if he didn't win it was all done by him to the best of his ability

Answer 3

I think that this is a fine line you are walking with your child. I think it is okay to help him with the project, and have him do most of the work with your "guidance", but to do it yourself will only teach him that someone else will always bail him out of a situation, two, that he doesn't need to work hard to get what he wants ,and three, if he wins on your account, he will always expect you to help him. when he is in high school or college, will you still be doing his projects? so i think you can help him, but shouldn't do it for him and give him the credit. let him do it and take the credit on his own accord. :)

Answer 4

No, it is never right for you to do your child's work. It's the same thing as plagiarism, like putting your signature on an old master's painting. You are making your child weak by doing that kind of thing. How would you like it if your child's doctor got his parents to finish his school projects? You couldn't trust the doctor, could you? You would never know if the doctor knew enough information or had enough experience to diagnose and treat your child.
Children who have parents, friends, or others help them by doing some of their work will only know how to cheat, not how to honestly succeed. I urge you to support your son's strength and integrity now, so he will be successful in the future.

Answer 5

As I understand it you want your son to learn to win at any cost. Taking credit for other peoples work, not doing work assigned to him and covering his tracks.

Heck you may as well send him to business school now, you are grooming him to be a manager. (but not a worker)

Answer 6

well...you should give your son assistance, but not complete it. if he wants to win so bad, then he should finish it. by assistance, i mean help him if he needs help with, say, wiring a circut. he shouldn't win because you picked up after him, he should win because he made the best project and completed it himself. you're not in school, he is.

Answer 7

Let him do the work first, then discuss with him and make on sort that he finds the right answer.
Kids become lazy when somebody's always around to fill in for them.
What will happen when you're not there (anymore)?

Answer 8

well, parent's should not help them in that... and i hope no one does... becouse if all the others do, and u don't, i don't see it much good, and ur boy should not take part of that fake contest...
well, u may help in many ways, been near to him, of helping in the concept, or maybe do something in practice, i think every parent should like to help...
i just suggest not to do it everytime, and not to make he used to your help, or he will get in trouble when he will need to make it all by himself.
when i was at elementary, a gentle old retired teached often helped me making my homeworks... and that was so good, i always had so good scores... and i used to feel me so smart.
but when i needed to start to do them by myself, i found that very hard, and i have always had bad scores till graduation at hightschool. now i'm in university, and i have near completed it, and i have learned how to study and make things, but been older made that more hard for me, and i'm sure that if i had my elementary homeworks done all alone, i should have had more satisfactions and greater scores later, becouse i should have learned how to do things, how to memorize, how to use my capacities when i'm alone and ur children need to learn their methods alone... i think...
but don't worry, if u did nly once or twice don't be too concerned.

Answer 9

its wat u can live with, either u will enable him the rest of his life, or you will give him this false sense you will be there forever when he needs u and then wat happens if u dont or cant help him, then what will this do to him, will it keep him lazy and just think "oh (mommy/daddy) can do it for me" so he can manipulate you forever, and let him figure out what he is good at and what he isnt, we are not meant to do everything so perfectly and doesnt losing help build a better person and not an arrogant one?

Answer 10

NOOOOOOO!!!!!! I think that is wrong. You arent being fair to the other students nor your own child... If you do this now he will expect you to do eveythhing for him in life