Me and my fiance have been dating for 4 and a half years.not always perfect but madly in love. In january we got engaged and it seemed like everything went down hill. Once engaged it seemed like she was telling me that she was not happy and I found myself becoming comfortable like she would always be there. We started fighting alot around march and it seemed like we could not even go out and have fun without fighting. She went on a trip and came back and we split up after because she said she needed space and time to think. I was relucent but agreed. Come to find out during the break she had been talking with my room mate and ended up sleeping with him. I still love her and was willing to make the sacrifices to make everything work and so was she but now all she says is she cant come back because of everything that has happenned in the past bw us. Right now she wont talk to me and she is isolating herself from everyone including frineds and she acts like everything is ok and happy
2007-06-07 19:46:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The funny thing is she absloutely hated this guy and now she says she has feelings for him and is talking to him alot. Its like when i finnally get her to open up to me she wants to be with me, but then its like she is getting brain washed when she talks to him and immediately changes her attitude about the situation. W e have not talked for about a month now and I dont see her talking to me any time soon bc she is very stubborn. How do i make her realize her true feelings for me and him because i know her finding out on her own with cause alot of pain and hurt?
2007-06-07 20:09:54 · update #1
i know that shw loves me bc the last convo she said"she will never be able to love anyone as much as she loves me" so why is so hard to stop talking to him and come back to the love she knows is there and take a chance instead of taking the easy way out
2007-06-07 21:17:51 · update #2
If she isn't ready or isn't willing, there isn't much you can do. You can't make it work on your own - she has to be willing to help. It sounds like she's got some work to do (who sleeps with their fiance's roommate?). I think you should take a few steps back and let her resolve her issues. In the meantime, maybe you'll meet someone who deserves you, or maybe your fiance will sort out her problems, apologize (profusely!), and you guys can try it again.
For now, though, you've been through enough.
2007-06-07 19:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the hearts you yourself have broken and understand that you may not end up with who you think we want. If you open your eyes and your mind, you will see just how pathetic she is, for sleeping with of all people your roomate.
Thats like sleeping with your brother or any of your male relatives. How would you feel if you do get married, and the next person she sleeps with, is actually a blood relative whom she met at the wedding, and now is opening up to him and not to you? I mean common !
You should be thanking God! Thats a big sign from God! Now you know how easy she can turn her heart against you!
Unless you have done her very wrong in the past, in which case, she is probably justifying it in her mind, but from the way you sound, I get the feeling that you have never once cheated on her yourself. Whatever the case, whatever the reason the girl is no good. God said so, and Y/A said so!
Move on and realize that someone else can love you so much more, and show you and give you all the respect you deserve! Dump her ! She's a Hoe! She ****** your roomate!
2007-06-08 05:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by **Panther** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in love with her, or the woman you thought she was? And of all people, why your roommate? She couldn't pick somebody you didn't know? And what's up with coming back from the trip and needing (more) space? Sounds like she might have found another guy during vacation. She doesn't seem like she's ready to settle down.
Sounds like breaking the engagement was the best thing she could have done for you.
2007-06-08 02:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by artsy_lovely_lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must face reality and don't pine away for someone who clearly said it's over. It's over. Also, once a cheater, always a cheater. You wouldn't want that. Let her go.
2007-06-08 02:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what???? man... you are being a lil dee dee dee... first off beat your roommates AS* ... put him in the hospital. second, dont forgive her!!!! ( it will only lead to more hurt). third... sleep with her mother!!!!
2007-06-08 02:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry there is nothing you can do.
2007-06-08 02:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Tyson boy's dad 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋