Just seeking some answers from men and women with relationship problems?

Question

About a month ago i broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years as i cought her cheating. Immediatley i threw her out. Three days later i started dating anouther girl. Found out she cheated with more then one person. She was never my girlfriend just a piece. Not a big loss. But my question would be this. Is it better to take time off after a bad break up or should a person just jump right into the dating game again? At this point in my life i feel like i will never find a faithful girl. I just seem to attract the utmost of losers when it comes to women. So from experience is it better just to jump the next person or is it better to wait a while before you start dating again?

Answer 1

Wait. Let love come to you. You keep finding the wrong women because you are seeking the wrong women. You need to change how you approach the relationship. If you are always getting the cheating women, maybe it is because YOU are just the piece to THEM, and they can sense this when you approach them. They get what they want, then move on to another. what you are looking for is something more stable, so you need to change the way you seek. Take some time off from relationships. If the type of girl who will stay true wants you to be true with her, she will let you know.

Answer 2

rebounds can and do work out sometimes (even resulting in committed, happy marriages).

However, if all you are concerned about is whether you should "jump" the next hottie, go ahead, that's part of why you may have an issue with unfaithful women.

If, on the other hand, you are actually looking forward to an eventual marriage, take your time. Maybe do the casual dating thing if that's your gig, but don't date like 4 women all at once, and you should know by date 3 if a girl has potential. If not, tell her it was fun, and you almost don't want it to end cause she's so darn cute, fun, etc, but she's not really your type and you don't want to waste her time, cause, hey, Mr. Right's waiting for her and God willing, there's a lady out there for you somewhere.

Do what feels right and seek out women who are into the things you're into... If you love the blues/rock/rap/etc., go to some local bands' concerts... If you love sports, go coach a womens' softball team...

Worry less about finding another woman and more about finding things that make you happy... believe me, if you find a woman who loves to order a hot dog with nacho cheese sauce at the hokey game, just like you do, you'll always have that one special thing in common and will find it so much easier to connect and have a happy, open, relaxed relationship... (i.e. you'll worry less about how she'll react to the noxious fumes you produce after consuming said hot dog).

Answer 3

believe it or not, people have studied this one, and it depends on what you are looking for.

Recreational sex tends to harm a woman's self esteem, but to help a man's.

Accidental pregnancy and deadly disease is out there, so that is a factor. Do you want to take the risk of bringing your next serious love a nifty, potentially a fatal, social disease? Your risk depends on whether you want to live your sex life in a condom, your age and your location... but it is also related to the number of potential exposures you engage in with untested strangers. please remember there is no real safety in testing someone unless they have been celibate for at *least* 3 months, and preferably 6.

Entering a new relationship is a different matter than dipping your wick. Men are better off to wait about a year, women are best to wait no less than 6 months.

do not bother to enter a relationship in which you do not feel you can offer both fidelity and trust, it will not endure without trust. When you are ready to trust again, you are ready.

Answer 4

If you been with her for 2 year's that is quite sometime to spend with someone...But if she cheated on you then you done the right thing about leaving her but don't just go and find someone else...For the fact that you should be free for a little bit take a break perhaps?....and stop looking for a bit and flirt with all the girls...Maybe a good one will come to you....Just dont try as hard..is what im geting at....

Answer 5

I think their problem lies in the fact that we are taught, from childhood, that both sex and porn is bad and in some cases, sinful. We're also told that our man never ever should look at someone else, or else he doesn't love us enough. I do think it's ridiculous to react to porn watching as well. I don't think it's cheating at all - what about all the girls who are oogling male actors and fantasize about them? Aren't they, by this logic, cheating as well by desiring someone else than their partner? It's quite another problem is the porn-watching has replaced the sex life and attention to the partner, but if a guy watches porn once in a while when he's home alone.. what's the big deal?

Answer 6

Good question!
It's best to take some time off to figure out what went wrong. I understand they were doing the cheating but you might want to consider the tell tale signs of woman that cheat (they're self absorbed). Then, you might want to examine "what" and "why" you are attracted to women like that. The answers are usually in your childhood.
Also, please consider not sleeping with all these woman - - - especially if they're cheaters. Essentially, you are sleeping with all the people they slept, too.

Answer 7

You are moving way too fast. Just date and get to know them. You don't have to jump into anything until you find the right girl for you!! Not all girls are cheats.

Answer 8

I would suggest a combination of both.

Try pursueing girls, but don't have sex with them. Something inside you is blind to a basic fault in the women you are attracted to. Taking two or three months to just talk to women, and not be blinded by the whole sex thing, will help you see them clearer when you want to start banging them again.

Talk ... chat ... flirt ... just no sex.

You'll be wiser for it.

Answer 9

A person should do what he/she needs to do. If you need to spend some time alone withyourself, do so. Or if you need someone, go and find... at least, you can try to find.

But, it's better to wait for the one to find you. There's no hurry, you know.

Answer 10

2 cheating ho's???

You gotta wait 2 months now. Then girls won't be able to tell your a cheatin victim.