see theres this guy at school and my friend is sooooo completly OBSESSED shes been crushing on him for like four years now
he has definetly made clear that he is sooo not iterested he was nice about it a first then he started getting aggravated and got meaner and meaner
how do i convince her that she should just move on, without distroying her self confidence?
2007-06-07 19:18:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try setting her up with other guys.
2007-06-07 19:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Matthew L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sitting her down and telling her that she's a great girl (describe her good qualities) and she's going to find someone special today, but this boy isn't it. Crushing over him when nothing's ever going to happen is never going to get her anywhere or do her any good. It may be hard to "break" your friends obsession or convince her otherwise, but as a friend, just let her know you're there for her and that you don't want her to get hurt. She may get angry at you because she's wrapped up in this boy so much, but sometimes you have to be blunt with people if you care about them. If she's a good friend she won't be let you telling her stop your friendship.
2007-06-08 02:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by i love love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years of obsessed style stalking and nothing has been done yet. Go to the school principal and let them know what is going on. Don't even tell your friend your doing this, he will stop you...but you need to do this.
This stalker chic may one day go over the edge and who knows....could kill your friend. It happens. If you care for your friend, tell the principal, and his parents.
This is a dangerous situation. Many will laugh it off, but she sounds a bit nutty to keep this going for four years. Good luck.
2007-06-08 02:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by wisconsindeathtrip03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be time for a little tough love. Tell her how it is straight up. It'll hurt, but maybe she needs that to get it.
2007-06-08 02:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that he is a jerk, and that she is wasting valuable time on him, shen she could be looking for a nice guy. Tell her that it is his loss.
2007-06-08 02:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the guy is definitely not a jerk. give her more time, another 4 years should do it.
2007-06-08 02:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by sutil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant its been 4yrs and he has told her a million times, now its time to be BLUNT and straight out, maybe this will work...since nothing else has
2007-06-08 02:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that theres plenty of other fish in the sea..............
2007-06-08 02:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋