Should I break up with my boyfriend??

Question

I love him so much--he's really sweet and fun to be around, and I've felt like I want to marry him.
But..he's controlling.

He gets really jealous when I go anywhere with my friends, and makes me feel bad about it.

He always wants to know who I've talked to, and doesn't want me to have any guy friends.

He doesn't really give me any space & sometimes I feel like I can't breathe...

Answer 1

I think the fact that you've posted this question to a worldful of strangers says a lot. It sounds like you know what the right thing to do is, but you want a lot of people to say, "Hang in there sweetie, it will get better." Trust yourself. If he's this way now, do you think it will get better after you marry? He'll probably get worse.

You can do better, sweetie.

Answer 2

I'm totally in the same situation!! Except I just gave birth to his child. The reason he doesn't trust me is because he made a HUGE mistake when we started dating, I think he thinks I'm going to get him back one day for it. You just need to take some time away from him for the time being and see if it works. Its sooooo hard! I'm taking the summer away from him, we no longer live together, he is totally there for the baby but we don't see each other every day. I know he loves me by the way he has to work on the whole trust thing, it's really gotten better. If I don't answer my phone he doesn't call 25 times more and he doesn't start calling around. He gets mad about me going out with the girls i just make a joke out of it and we are okay. I wouldn't say dump him because love is always something to hold on to but definitely try something different and if it doesn't work it really wasn't meant to be.

Answer 3

That is a tough one... after being in a relationship where I was head over heals in love and she cheated on me, I can understand if not condone wanting to know what is going on in your life....that does not give reason to not let you have one though... I would talk to him about the way you feel, not an arguement, no accusations, just how you feel about the turn your relationship is taking...if he loves you like you love him, he will listen and work to help make the relationship better for the both of you.

Answer 4

My husband is close to that but many years ago I dated a guy who was like that and it only gets worse. I wouldn't recommend staying with him. I stayed with that guy for about two and a half years and couldn't get out of the relationship, it's a good thing I have the best big brother who is in the Marines and he took off from work one day and saved me from that guy. I had issues about that for a long time. Don't let someone else take control of your life,

Answer 5

u must communicate.. in a relationship its very important to talk it out.. dont u love him?? if u do then u must try to stick and solve the problem not break up.. tell him wats bothering u.. tell him u will never cheat on him and that u are loyal.. prove it to him by showing ur cell phone.. he's jealous becoz he's possesive abt u.. he might be feeling insecure abt your guy friends.. guys dont like sharing wat they think is theirs..your bf really loves u thats why he is damn possesive abt u..but u need space so tell him that frends are needed or u both might get bored.. as long as your other frends are platonic nothing else is wrong.. assure ur bf that they are only frends and that u wont leave him or cheat on him with them.. ur bf is insecure so make him feel that he's the only guy u wud ever wanna be with...make him feel secure.

Answer 6

Well, I've always felt that others cannot make such a important decision for you. You are the only one who can decide whether or not to break up...

All I can say is that, its not easy for 2 persons to be together. If you really love him, try to have a talk with him first. Try to work things out...

However, if he continues to behave in this manner then reconsider your decision...

Answer 7

honestly id stick it out with him, when a guy gets jealous like that it means he cares and doesnt want you to find the next best thing, meaning you would leave him. i have a feeling once marrige comes into play and he knows that youve committed to him in that way im sure he will loosen up about you going out. it just takes honest, trust and loyalty, without either of those you have POOP.

Answer 8

haven't you ever seen Dr. Phil?? the word "BUT" just cancels out everything you said before it.
so the fact that he's "really sweet and fun to be around" means bullshit.
read over what you wrote after the word "but" and realize what the right decision is because you knew what it was all along.

Answer 9

if your relationship is to the point where you would actually consider marriage, you have to remember that love alone is not enough. If he is controlling, chances are that will NEVER change, and possibly get worse as the relationship progresses. you should talk to him about what makes you uncomfortable, and dont rush into anything.
good luck!
:)

Answer 10

If it is that bad now, it will get worse as time goes on. Time to put your foot down and let him know that you do not appreciate him treating you as if you do not have good judgement. You need to be able to think for yourself. If he will not allow it, then it is time to say goodbye to this controlling creature.