He's 28 years old and doesn't want to discuss the future or commit..does that show immaturity?
2007-06-07 17:56:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has nothing to do with maturity. If he doesn't want to commit, it means you are not someone he wants to be committed to.
2007-06-07 18:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only shows immaturity is you consider showing a commitment a mature action. As lots of immature people show huge commitments to each other, it's not just about age. There should be nothing wrong with not wanting to think about the future. Plenty of guys, and a few girls, live day to day without a huge life plan.
2007-06-08 01:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either immaturity, or his not being sure whether he is in the "right" relationship.
Sometimes though, it may not be a reflection on the partner's suitability, but rather his own feeling of inadequacy that he may not be able to live up to expectations/ role-playing that is called upon in a committed relationship/marriage.
Such people need to be worked upon, gently and persuasively, and slowly brain-washed!!!
2007-06-08 01:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by galpal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the man. He may be a confirmed bachelor. He may be a career man. Does he have a career and a future. His family may influence him more than you know, and it is loyalty more than immaturity.
He may be immature, men take a long time. He may marry in ten years. He's only been on his own legally ten years.
2007-06-08 01:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. On one hand, it can show he's not the type to settle down. On the other, it simply means he's not yet ready. If he's unwilling to discuss it, it could be because he has insecurities or is just not ready to approach the topic as of yet. He's only 28, there's no need to rush or coerce him into marriage.
2007-06-08 01:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how long you have been together. If it has been a long time, then he should be definitely thinking and planning for a future, if he truly loves you. If the relationship is less than a year or two, then he may be thinking about getting his life ready for that move.
2007-06-08 01:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...maybe.
Or ambivalence, or wanting to get established in his career first, or any of a number of things.
It really depends on the situation.
You don't expect every man to instantly want to commit to every woman, do you?
2007-06-08 01:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, just a sign of somebody who considers his relationship with you to be a casual one.
If you want a serious relationship, tell this man you want someone in your life, that is willing to share it. If he doesn't want to, move on, or acknowledge that staying with this man is what you are willing to accept.
Men treat you the way you allow them to, and you should make them meet your standard's, not lower yourself to meet theirs.
2007-06-08 01:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by hairy silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. that doesn't signal immaturity. it however signals that he's uneasy about commitment. maybe he wants to live life uncommitted and in his terms, be 'free' for as long as he can
2007-06-08 01:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by cartoonfreak25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely. I do give him points for honesty though, but if you're looking for someone to settle down with, keep looking.
2007-06-08 01:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋