What does he want? How does he feel?
My ex.boyfriend and I broke up about 3 years ago when I moved away to college (I am seven years younger) because the long distance was really hard. We remained really close friends..esp in the last six months or so. We didn't get back together but he contantly tells me he loves me/misses me and one day when we im done with school and everything we will get back together. He merely told me we are living seperate lives and thats why he doesn't want to commit. Last week, however, I found out that he has another girl in the picture..at a bar a mutual friend told me. I was so hurt..even though were not together. I confronted him and he says he's confused..etc. I told him we can't be friends anymore and am now regretting it because I really miss him. He says he's confused..etc. but was really hurt and sad when I told him. What should I do? Is there any hope for our future? Should I stay friends or make him see what life is like without me?
2007-06-07 16:14:57 · 14 answers · asked by Janie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's over, move on. Billions of guys on this planet, don't get hung up on just one.
2007-06-07 16:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its been 3 years since you guys have broken up so you should have went your seperate ways then and became friends later. Unfortunately you never really let go of the feelings you two had for each other, which is hard to do.
Anyways I think you need to set some guidelines for your relationship and stick to them because theres no reason you can't still be friends if thats what you want.
You need to let go of the relationship you once had even if there is a prospect of getting back together in the future. Keep it as a fond memory in the back of your mind
you two should talk less often, and never about loving each other and so on. try not to talk about new relationships either.
Just sort of keep in touch. Because its basically just a tease to be giving each other the perks of the emotional aspect of a relationship (I love you's , etc) without the committment.
If he wanted to live seperate lives while you're away and not commit then that's what he chose to do and he's going to have to deal with that unless he wants to make a huge change (like moving to where you are).
anyways figure out what you need to do to stop this unhealthy exchange of old feelings between you and start a healthy one of friendship only.
good luck!
2007-06-07 23:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been in a REALLY bad relationship for 4 years and gone through just about what you are I would say try to move on. Either he will realize what he has lost and hopefully someday be faithful to you (although I have my doubts about that) or you will come to terms with the fact that you MIGHT be better without him (which is more likely). Once you have backed away from the situation and seen what you can do alone (or with someone else) you see what you are really worth. You are better than chasing after an ex-boyfriend that has a new girl, once you see that, you are bound to do great things with yourself.
Hope this helps.
2007-06-07 23:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kahluah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think real hard girl! ....... even if you're together, a long distance relationship doesn't make love grow fonder, but it makes love grow farther.......... guys are all the same, no matter how much they say they love you, they still can't resist temptation esp. if you're not around, like us girl, they also need to be taken cared of, but guys needs hands-on caring, they are not contented with phone calls and emails, and they want us to understand that, for them going out and meeting with other girls doesn't really mean that they don't love you anymore, this is what makes your ex confused (maybe)...bcoz he loves/wants to be with you but also with other girls.
that's up to you girl, if you really love your man, then, hold on, in the end, if it really don't work the way you want it, at least you can say "IT'S NOT MY LOST, BUT YOURS"
2007-06-07 23:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by zhallie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He's keeping you as a back-up for whenever his current relationship goes south.
I had a guy like that and he ended up getting married without even inviting me to the wedding. Dump Him Now.
2007-06-07 23:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's better bing friends but I mean the choose is urs, want advice?
first, make him see what life is like w/o u in it n if he comes back n text u or something, telling u he misses u, then b friends w/ him.
second, if it doesn't work that way, then don't worry abt it... move on... live ur own life...
2007-06-07 23:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by RaghdaSweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is going to find someone closer, there is no doubt he loves you but unless you or he can commute... I think you should concentrate on school! In the fiture when you plant your self, look him up! maybe he will be rekindled by your new fowned independence.
2007-06-07 23:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on... It may take him awhile but if he really loves you the way you wanna be loved then he'll come back. Just give it time and space, who knows you maybe even find some one else who you relize your ment to be with......
2007-06-07 23:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by stayathomemom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2007-06-07 23:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on end of story.
2007-06-07 23:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by daisydownsouth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋