im always sad?

Question

Ive been cutting for 3 years...and just last week i told my mom about it. She wants to get me counseling for the cutting, but i think i may have depression, and thinkin i have that makes me even more depressed...My life has been going downhill for a long time, im always sad, but i dont usually show it when im around people, im tired of crying myself to sleep, im tired of it all.....1 year ago, i almost made the life ending mistake of killing myself...i had the knife and everything, but then i sat down and realized what i was doing

I just dont know what to do, i dont want to talk to my mom about it because it makes it really uncomfortable, so i just dont know what to do

THis isnt really a question, i just want to know if there is anyone who relates to me, and what should i do, get counseling, talk to my mom, or just try to work things out with myself. If i get counseling, that means my dad will have to find out, and i know this is so stupid, but me and him dont ahve a good ...

relationship with him, and im afraid him knowing this will jsut ruign the small relationship that i do have with him

thanks to yall who decide to answer this question, and who read the whole thing...because i really do appreciate it

Answer 1

Go get help. You probably have a chemical imbalance in your brain making you depressed. Get help, they'll hook you up with some drugs that'll make you more normal. If you getting help somehow ruins the relationship with your dad, **** him.

You don't need a dad like that. If he's any kind of dad this shouldn't affect his relationship to you.

Answer 2

My dear how old are you that life offers no other end than Suicide??? Please seek help, you will be more of a burden to your parents if you end your life. I assure you that parents really want to help, and that they love you I know I'm a parent. We can only kiss the bobo's we know about. We may be a little angry in the beginning, but counseling can work everything out. You guys try to grow up too soon these days; therefore life overwhelms you guys and you feel the only way out is suicide. What you know as a teenager will be nothing if you just remember that you have the rest of your life to make a difference. You can change your life no matter what age it's all up to you. I came from an abusive home but I now have a husband and three children who I love dearly, and I would never do anything to harm my children. I am completely happy and you will be someday. The man upstairs has someone for everybody, and like me you may not meet him right off, but stand strong!!! Get a hobbie get into working out. Endorphins released naturally by the body will help you to overide any problems and make you mentally and physically strong. They have a National Hot line number for troubled, Suicidal Teens at 1-800-273-8255...I will say a prayer for tonight and I hope you do the right thing...K

Answer 3

Honey, I was there when I was 17. Talk to your mom about you not wanting to tell your dad. You do need counseling. They will probably put you on a medication like Paxil. That is what they put me on and it worked great. Sometimes you have to go through a couple of other medications to get the right one for you though. The best advice I can tell you is to be COMPLETELY open and honest with your counselor about EVERYTHING! The cutting, the constantly being sad, even you and your dad's relationship! And she doesn't have to tell your mom EVERYTHING. Your counselor is your confidant and friend.

Another thing........PLEASE don't think this is how you will be for the rest of your life. You WILL overcome this, and it won't be as hard as you think with the medicine and counseling. I thought my life was ending at 17. I am now 23, married and soooo happy! You are just in a rut right now in your life. Trust me I know exactly how you are feeling, and I promise you if you will go through with this counseling and medicine--your counselor will refer you to a Dr. to get some medicine---you will be feeling a lot better within a month---and it will get better the next month---then a little better the next month, and you will be so happy! The only hard part is finding the right medication! But that is not that hard. Go to the counselor and give that and the meds a try, you will be feeling as good as new! Good Luck, and God Bless!

Answer 4

I am 17 years old and I know exactly what you're feeling. I have depression, and I used to be so closed about it. I never told anyone about how I felt. I have been cutting for around 4 years. I got on some medication however and started going to counseling. I found that the more open I became about it, the easier it was to cope with and deal with. The medicine helped me out A TON too. I've battled depression my entire life, and would love to talk to you about it. Talking with someone that understands really helps. My email address is [e-mail]

Take care

Amanda

Answer 5

Firstly, keep telling yourself that you are a very normal person, there are so many people who can take help from you: yes, that's a fact! There are many people in the world around you, who have no homes, no friends, no computers, no education........okay, you don't have to really think about them a lot: you only have to realise and keep telling yourself the good things about your life, the good things you have around you -- that's the first step! Start getting organised, have a kind of healthy, regular daily routine: eat well, talk to people with some cheer and joy, listen to people with interest, read a few books, in slow time, enjoying the reading: sleep wwell in a relaxed way, learn to relax, listen to music, take interest in that.... yes, you can do all that, with a little effort, and, only you and yourself only can help you in all this -- by a fierce desire to get rid of that sadness, which is not real, which is trying to fool you! Just see, a few of us have read what you wrote above, with some interest, and a few of us are responding! There are people relating to you: you may not be in touch with them, directly, you don't have to be! Already you are feeling better, and you realise that, don't you: pick it up from here, and help yourself, be a new person from now on! all the best! and, cheers!

Answer 6

First of all don't worry about your dad, you need to think about yourself and take care of your problems. That is first and foremost. I would advise counseling because this person would have no preconceived notions about you so they would be easier to talk to without you being judged. I am not saying your mother isn't good to talk to but she is to close, to involved and sounds to me like you need a professional in this area. You really need to do it soon because from the way you sound I don't think you can deal with it much longer on your own. Just remember, we all have problems, and sometimes we don't even know what they are. But getting help is the key, not just for you but for everyone. Get yourself on the road to recovery or discovery, whichever you prefer to call it. Good luck.

Answer 7

Hi Shelby! Sweetie, it is a tough thing to go through but you should NOT have to go through alone! You should get some counselling and trust that your dad will be supportive! Why? Because you took the initiative to get help and that counts for alot! I onced worked with a boy who cut himself and he got help and has stopped since we last spoke. So, it will be alot easier to talk adn let go some if not all of your worries that you can't bear for yourself! PRAY!!! No matter who you believe in just pray and I guarantee you will feel the weight lifting off your shoulder! Good luck Shelby and I'm here for you! My name is Sharry! :>

Answer 8

Usually when I feel this sad, I ask myself what is making me feel this way. Is it that I feel helpless about where I am in life and feel powerless to change it? I find that sometimes, just sitting down and writing out my goals helps me to see a direction that I can head in. I don't necessarily believe you need medication, but someone to talk to. I would talk to a counseler and ask him or her some steps you can take to work through your depression. Perhaps she or he will help you to deal with things in your past. Sometimes all it takes is a fresh outlook and you know how to cope.

Answer 9

I know the last thing you probably want to do is to have to sit down with a consouler and just talk . But just try it , if it doesnt work , I have more advise . STRAIGHTEN OUT YOUR LIFE , WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO , what are your interests , if you have something you like do it just do it . I hope it works out , if the thought of killing yourself comes up , do something bold or fun , thats the real way to get away from it.

Answer 10

Hun, your mom's right. And I really doubt that your father will like you less because you are getting help. It might help him to understand you better and actually improve your relationship.
You really need to talk to someone. Just know that you're not alone, lots of people talk to therapists and it doesn't make you weak or bad. It makes you smart enough to realize you need a little help figuring your life out right now.
Things will get better, don't give up.