I just found out I am pregnant today and I called my mom to share the good news and she didn't know what to say to me. She just kept saying she was busy and would call me later about it. She also said something like "well, if you think you can handle this." I've been married for 7 years and I have two boys, 6 and 3. My marriage is wonderful and we have the money to support 3 kids. Why would she be angry about it? I work on the weekends and she told me that she knew I would do something so I wouldn't have to work anymore. It makes me upset to think that my mother would feel like I had a baby just to get out of working two says a week. This baby was made because my husband and I both wanted it. Has anyone had this happen with them, their family not supportive of their pregnancy? My husband and my kids and I have been very excited to learn the news and then I felt bad when I talked to my mom.
2007-06-07 15:30:10 · 9 answers · asked by foxfirefly81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks to everyone who responded and for all the nice words. When I work on the weekends, my husband is with the kids. My parents hardly ever watch the kids, we spend most of our time with our kids. My mom had a rocky relationship with my dad and she constantly said she wanted a divorce from him, my dad was controlling and had depression. Like a poster said here, she kept telling me to finish my education now so I had something to fall back on later in life. I guess she feels like I won't do it now. I just talked to her and she said she's happy if I'm happy. Again thanks so much for all the replies!
2007-06-07 16:32:04 · update #1
Wow this is new. Some parents think that they know what is best for their children all the time (ie their adult children). Even if you may feel that you are ready she may not think you are. This is her issue. You just need to let her know that you are fine and you can handle this.
I wish you all the best with this.
Just talk to her.
2007-06-07 15:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she thought now you would go on to do other things then just have babies..she might have had expectations and now she feels like your just spitting out children and she wants more for you...I don't really know your relationship with your mom but thats the only thing I could come up with. That or she is the babysitter while your at work so SHE doesn't want the responsibility of that on her.
She probably doesn't want to see you with 4 kids at 26...your still young. (there is nothing wrong with that but some would consider it young)
2007-06-07 22:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would come right out and ask her why she is upset and giving you the cold shoulder about it. Here you wanted to share the good news with your own Mother and this is the way she treats you. This is wrong. She may be jealous. My Mother was the same way. I am so sorry you had to get this reaction. It stinks!! I would let her know if this is the way she is gonna react then she can just have no part in it.
2007-06-07 22:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is strange. Did your parents have a good marriage? All I can think is that she may be jealous of your happy marriage and your life. Even though she is your mother, she is still human. I'm sorry for her reaction.
SummerLove also makes an excellent point.
Anyway, give her some time. She will probably come around.
I commend you for being married and then starting your family.
2007-06-07 22:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by vmarie84 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what, misery loves company. Your mother is jealous of your happiness and needs to knock you down a peg.
Move on, live your life with your family and don't expect her praise. Just don't initiate contact and don't ever complain about anything to her. She will just use it against you.
Congratulations!
2007-06-07 23:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your mom spoil your happy time. She'll come around. Especially when she sees her new grandbaby. You might try talking to her about why she's being this way, and she could explain her behavior.
2007-06-07 22:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by Loup Garou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom has to learn when to let go!
2007-06-07 22:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Yesugi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should go to and ask what the problem is, respond to her and maybe the problem will resolve.
2007-06-07 22:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by jim,tam r 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don,t bother about it
2007-06-07 22:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋