I have tried to curb this behavior because I've noticed women at work crossing their arms in front of their chest. Isn't it okay for a man to look? If not, why not?
2007-06-07 15:26:27 · 19 answers · asked by Yellowrabbit 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is not OK behaviour. It is rude to ogle another person for the same reason it is rude to stare at someone ~ because it makes them uncomfortable.
If causing another person discomfort is not a good enough reason for you to stop doing this, then consider this ... in many places it is grounds for a charge of sexual harrassment.
If the women you work with are already crossing their arms when speaking to you, you are skating close to that line and may already have marked yourself as a 'creep'. I hope not for your sake, because that is a deep, deep hole to dig yourself out of.
You know this, I think, or you would not be asking this question.
You CAN stop this behaviour, but you need to do it consciously. If you cannot just look at the person's eyes and face, perhaps you could try to place yourself in such a position that you cannot see the breast area of the person you are talking to?
If this cannot be managed, then try to have some activity to do while you are talking. Always have a folder in your hands and shuffle the contents, for example, or keep your eyes on your computer monitor. Or scan the bulletin board. Do not ALLOW yourself to look at the women's breasts.
This may be hard, but it is also mature. Adults do hard things all the time, it's one of the things that separate the grown-ups from the kids. Act a bit more classy than an undisciplined brat ~ you are a working man now!
Good luck !
2007-06-07 15:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL! It's not your fault. There are women who stare at my chest when they talk to me. I finally got the nerve to ask if there was something on my shirt, and she said "No, I'm just amazed at how big your boobs are!" We both laughed and I told her, just get a good f'in look already, it's annoying to watch the eyes flit back and forth. And she did! and guess what, it cured her. She never had that problem again with my chest.
I wonder if that would work with guys, or would it only escalate the whole problem.
2007-06-07 15:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers women to have a man stare at their breasts. It's creepy in the sense of perversion. No woman wants to be with a man who doesn't notice who she is at heart. If you do this at work you will have serious problems. I worked with a man who did this. All of the women there couldn't stand him -we didn't want to be alone with him, and requested our supervisors speak to him about this. He was finally fired. If you do this regularly, you will do it without thinking about it sometime when it's very important you don't do it, and have bad repercussions.
It also shows you exclude the rest of the humanness of a woman. If you do this when you are alone with your wife, it might work. But when you do it to other women, you will be resented and excluded. Learn to look elsewhere and find out about who people are, other than sexually.
2007-06-07 16:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to do this too.
(and I'm a girl so whatever.)
If you aren't intentionally looking there then it may be a confidence issue, you can't look them directly in the eye.
Figuring out why you do it would be the first step to fixing it.
Otherwise, you could end up in a lot of trouble for something you don't really mean to do.
2007-06-07 15:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by uhhh 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lol I cross my arms ahhaa..
It makes us feel uncomfortable, so stop. Unless we're obviously ASKING for it, then don't do it... if we're seriously interested in conversation then don't go there, but if a woman is wearing a low-cut top and she's out clubbing then she obviously wants it.
2007-06-07 15:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by j12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once saw a comedy routine in which the man was talking to the woman's breasts and when the woman replied she leaned down and "spoke" to his crotch.
In the American culture it is considered poor manners and lack of home training to not look someone in the eye when you speak to them.
2007-06-07 15:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's pretty widespread, but it's also very rude. When talking to a woman, you should be looking at her eyes. It's okay to look, I think, but not okay to stare. How did you miss this rule growing up?
2007-06-07 17:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal for u to look but you have to be careful some women may take it offensive . Try to look at there eyes when you are talking to them
2007-06-07 15:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by erica r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and concentrate on the face, junior. It doesn't help to direct your conversation to the chest because you're not going to be seeing it later. It's just plain creepy to have someone staring at another person's chest. I'm surprised they cross their arms instead of slapping you. Ever heard of sexual harassment?
2007-06-07 15:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
what do you think dick head. I was going to ask would you like it if a woman looked at your penis the whole time she was talking to you but i already know the answer... so
Would you like it if a man looked at your penis ..(assuming yours is not inverted) the whole time you were talking.
The reason you look at breasts is because its normal human behavoiur to want what you cant nad will never have.
Accept that no woman is ever going to be desperate enough to let you touch hers and stop being a pervert.
Why dont you look at porno magazines.. the girls in there dont mind if you look at theirs. they get paid to flash them around.
Loser
2007-06-07 16:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by satans_lollies 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋