Growing up my dad took off when I was 6 years old. I did not see him again until I was 15 and once more when I was 33. Now, I have kids of my own and I want to be the best dad in the world. I have told myself I will not be like my father. My wife and I are separated now for 6 months, I fought to get custody of my kids. I am the domicilary parent. She gets them every other weekend if she can pass a drug test. She has to take a drug test every month to be able to have unsupervised visits.
I always wanted to have kids. I wanted to be some kids father, to be able to take care of and raise good kids. be there for them when the need me. I want to teach good morals and respect to my kids and never leave them.
Did I have kids because I wanted to, or did I have kids to prove to myself that I can be a great dad? This just now hit me when I answered another question.
2007-06-07 15:25:11 · 5 answers · asked by Bones 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its alittle of both...in order to ful fill a desire, being the best father, you had to have children. Both are connected and can not be fulfilled without each other.
2007-06-07 15:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I must say that whatever the reason may be quit dwelling on it. Your kids are in this world now and for whatever reason that may be, you will be their biggest hero and fan. You will be their to teach them what is right and wrong even though your father wasn't. It could be psychological part of the process of you not having a father but hey they are your world no matter what. I personally think you probaly just wanted kids but also wanted to prove what a father could really be. Don't worry it doesn't really matter, does it?
2007-06-07 22:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by ms_roxy_05 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably a little bit of both. My dad didn't want to be like his either, and because of that he is an awesome dad - not that my grandpa wasn't great, he just came from that generation where he worked more than he was home. Because you wanted kids, and because you want to be better than your dad, you will be an awesome parent.
2007-06-07 23:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Loup Garou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe a little bit of both but, what does it matter? are you a good dad? are the kids happy and healthy? if the answers are yes then don't worry and don't beat yourself up about your reason to have children.
2007-06-07 22:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice...don't waste one more minute of your time trying to come up with answer that is not going to mean anything...those kids are here, the reason is immaterial and it is up to you to keep your promise to yourself and be the best Dad you can be!
2007-06-07 22:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by knarfwiz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋