I am 21 yrs old I work part time. I live at home with my parents but I go to school. I have a 4 yr old daughter. I'm a little over weight (which I'm working on) but I’ve got a good head on my shoulders. I think i'm a beautiful young lady. I have never been in a healthy relationship that lasted more then 5 months. I know I'm young so I don't expect to find the one yet. But why do I have such a hard time keeping a guy? All my relationships end they same they just end he stops calling even when I break up with him. I don't have any guy friends that I’ve dated. I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong. I want to find a guy that is good to me and understanding of my situation. Even if he's not the right one forever. I wish some day that I could find a good guy so I could show my daughter what a healthy relationship is. The sperm donor isn't around period so I’d like someone that can show her what a father or a male role model is like. I'm very open about my daughter to the man I’m with I don’t push her on him at all. Mostly I just want to know why its so hard for me to find a healthy relationship even if its just for practice for the right guy.
2007-06-07 15:06:58 · 9 answers · asked by anglzndskyz2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So whats good for you (as in men)? Maybe you should wait till you find the "Mr.Right guy". Maybe the guys you dated thought you were the "right one forever". Maybe there is a misunderstanding about what you want in a relationship. Maybe the guys don't want to be "practice" material! Be clear in what you want in a relationship, it would make things easier in the future! Who knows, maybe you will find the right one tomorrow! :)
2007-06-07 15:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by AJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The term "sperm donor" is the giveaway.
You have a bitterness toward the father of your child which is bleeding over into all of your relationships with men.
If you are dating men at or around your own age, you are probably finding guys with a similar "play the field, have a good time, nothing serious" kind of attitude. This reminds you of your ex, and casts a pall over the way you deal with them.
Forgive the baby's father for whatever sins you he committed ( and those that you blame him for...) and you will be able to move on.
2007-06-07 22:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are half of what you say you are, don't sweat it, the good men will find you. Perhaps you should look in the places where the kind of guys, you want to meet congregate. That could be college, church, charitable organizations, karate class, or even the spice section of the local grocery store. My personal favorite on where to meet people is the dog park in my subdivision. In short, love is where ever you find it.
As to your daughter, that's a tough one. Most of the guys in your age bracket are too immature and self-centered to allow anyone to come before their ego.
Have you considered asking your girlfriends to introduce you to brothers, cousins, and their own boyfriend's best bud?
2007-06-07 22:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by dragunov 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa... what are the odds? A girl is actually looking for a decent, upstanding fellow as opposed to one of the "bad boys"?
Is this the end? Will the Cubs finally win a World Series?
Sorry. But my girlfriend took the last good guy.
2007-06-07 22:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seems you may be going for the same kind of guys with a different wrapping. where did all the good guys go, nowhere, i just found one of them floating in the wind. keep working on your weight issues that may be a big issue for some men.
Always let men know from jump street that your daughter is your daughter and they dont have to feel like they have to play the daddy role, just be themselves, and make sure u never smell like aquatic undersea life
2007-06-07 22:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is your cutoff age?I work between 48 and 60 hours a week.I own my house and I have never found the woman who God has inteded for me.My spiritual life is inportant to me.If you want to know more send me a message.
2007-06-07 22:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by john s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your looking in the wrong places?
Try profiling your perfect kind of guy. Imagine him, shape him, what does he like? How does he act? What drives him? Then figure out where he would hang out, and find him!
2007-06-07 22:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by jaufwa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most of them you probubly dont notice wile looking for the right guy, i know this because i am one of those overlooked nice guys.
2007-06-07 22:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by idea monster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something you do puts off the men! think :D
2007-06-07 22:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Rockin Ajax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋