do you think this is right?

Question

im starting college this summer and my mother expects me to ask my grandmother for my college tuition. my grandmother is willing but i really would just rather pay for the majority myself and ask her for money when its an emergency. what do you think i should do?

Answer 1

I think you are absolutely right about paying your own way for college and asking your grandmother for tuition money only in an emergency. By paying your tuition yourself, you are accepting financial responsibility and it will make you appreciate more the reasons for earning a college degree. Also, if you don't make the grade in a college course, you'll only have to answer to yourself; you won't owe anyone else an explanation or be subjected to being "chewed out" by those folks who have paid the tuition for you. I think it's considerate of you to avoid asking your grandmother for the tuition and paying for it yourself instead.
Bravo!

Answer 2

First, my compliments on your wanting to pay your own way when an option for someone else to do it may be available.
That is refreshing and admirable.

A question that came to mind is: "How do you know your grandmother is willing and/or able to pay your tuition?"

If the subject has only been covered with your mother, and she is the only one saying anything to you, then I would NOT want to ask grandmother for anything.

What you can reasonably do, is tell your grandmother that you have been given these suggestions, and then be open about your own feelings of personal obligation.

I cannot see her failing to appreciate your honesty and integrity.

If you have personally discussed it with her in the past, AND if there was some expectation of payment n her part, then speak openly, and tell her how you feel.

As in the alternate option, above, I cannot see why she would not appreciate this.

Either way, you will have expressed your own feelings openly and honestly to someone who is important to you, and the input you get in return may show she has more knowledge on the subject than you, and, perhaps, more money than you do.

I see no down side to this.
Keep it up, and do your best.

Answer 3

Why would your mother suggest you ask her to pay your tuition? Is she wealthy and/or would it give her enjoyment or a feeling of usefulness to be asked and be able to help with something important? If this is the case, it seems a bit foolish to avoid that kind of advantage. It's tough, maybe tougher than you anticipate. You could always accept help and save your own money. That way if things don't go as smoothly as you hoped you have that safety net and if all goes according to your plan, you can pay your Grandmother back after college.
If you actually can pay for colledge and support yourself while still devoting enough time towards studies to acheive the best grades possible - go ahead and do it on your own if it will give you the sense of accomplishment you want.

Answer 4

If you are a struggling student and your grandmother is able and willing to pay your tuition, than why not accept the offer? After you graduate and become successful you can thank her by repaying her or sending her on a fantastic vacation. Be thankful for a loving family and good luck!!

Answer 5

I think you should pay for the tuition yourself if that is what you wish to do. Tell your grandmother that you want to try to pay your own way. I bet she will be proud and maybe she will even offer to cover you in an emergency!

Answer 6

I think you should sit down and talk to your grandmother and mother together about the subject. Say you want to pay for everything you can, but get an idea in place about what to do when something comes up. It's admirable that you want to do it on your own, but it doesn't hurt to discuss with the family the situation together and make decisions.

Answer 7

I think you should try to pay your own way through. You don't want people to think you have to rely on your grandmother for college tuition, although if you need it, most DEFINITELY take it.

Answer 8

If the grandmother offers,,fine,, Do NOT ask,work, instead. Working your way through college, will make you a much better person,anyway. Please do not assume
your grandmother has that kind of money to spare, or would want to,,,,that would be sooooooooooo very rude!

Answer 9

do what you want to do, I would ask her only in an emergency. Why does your mom expect you to ask your grandmother anyways? Isn't it your mom's job to pay?

Answer 10

Do exactally what you just said. It sounds like you're a very responciable person. The fact that you are independent means you will go a long way in life. Enjoy collage. Trust me, it's more gratifying if you pay for it yourself!