Okay. My fiance and I decided that when giving birth to our daughter, it was best for only the two of us to be in the room. We told our families that and made sure that they knew. Here's the problem: His mom is a pushy and controlling *****. I just talked to his sister today and not only is she planning on weasiling her way into the room, she plans on video taping it all and taking pictures of my ***** when she is comming out. What would you do to get her out of there? Aparantly telling her isn't enough.
2007-06-07 14:14:13 · 15 answers · asked by matandmaegan0507 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow. Your mother in law is definitely being pushy and invasive. If someone decided to weasel their way into the delivery room when they weren't asked and take pictures of my vagina I would be pretty upset!
You and your husband both need to re-establish with his mother that the both of you would rather not have anyone else in the delivery room. This is not to offend her or anyone else but to make things more comfortable for the both of you. Also, let her know that you do not want her to try to take those pics or have it video taped. It is a private matter and you would like to keep it that way.
If she still doesn't get it let your doctor and the hospital know ahead of time that no one (especially your mother in law) is allowed in the room or to take pictures of the delivery. They will be sure to carry out your wishes.
2007-06-07 15:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely place this responsibility on your Doctor. Tell your Doctor and the nurse staff of your wishes.
I just had a baby 6 months ago, and trust me - it's nothing like on TV with the nice little sheet over your legs covering up everything DOWNSTAIRS.
Anyone in the room will see EVERYTHING you have to offer.
Delivering a baby is very emotional, physical, and a simply amazing experience ... it's your body, your baby, your decision on who is sharing those moments with you.
Try to make her feel needed by asking her to help coordinate phone calls after the baby is born. Also, maybe ask her to buy something special for the baby to have (soft blanket, cozy hat, etc). She is probably just so excited about this granddaughter, and may not even realize the pushy person she's being.
Good Luck, and congratulations!
2007-06-07 14:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your fiance about what his mother wishes to do? Maybe if the both of you sit and discuss with her that the both of you agree that you only want the two of you in the room she may listen. Of course if she is that pushy and controlling then I would have to agree about talking with your doctor and the hospital before the birth about your and your fiance's wish to have your families wait outside while you are giving birth and that it will help you stay calm. Best of luck.
2007-06-07 14:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by princess_paulette22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right not to have your sister and mother in law in the delivery room.Tell the staff on duty. The only other solution is not to tell the family until the event is over.It could happen in the middle of the night.Babies decide to come whenever they decide to come. It may happen quickly.You dont know.My best advice is not to tell the family when the baby is coming.
2007-06-07 15:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If talking to her isn't enough (which it really should be), then just let the doctor's know that you don't want her or anyone else in the room. They won't let her in, and so she won't be able to just walk in there. Plus, lots of hospitals have policies against filming the birth anyways, so I doubt she'd get away with that in the first place. Good luck!
2007-06-07 14:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get to your room talk to your labor and delivery nurse. Ask her to tell your fiances mother that it is hospital policy that you and your partner are the only two allowed in the room. They will more than likely be glad to do this. Their main goal is to keep you happy and calm during the delivery. Worked like a charm on our Mothers.
2007-06-07 14:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by DEREK E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telling your DR and the medical staff at the hospital is what will take care of it.
If she intrudes, they can call security and that will take care of it. Having a baby is very personal and as long as you and your husband are in agreement that you want to be the only ones there, then all you have to do is make sure the staff understands your wishes.
2007-06-07 14:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Wise Guy. Tell the hospital that absolutely no one but you and your fiance are to be in the delivery room. They will gladly abide by your wishes. Also, it takes the heat off of you guys.
2007-06-07 14:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by helen r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the docters and nurses.Im sure they will not let anyone else in.I dont know what will happen if she disobeys them but im pretty sure they wont let her come in.(P.S. My friend had a baby that was supposed to be a girl and it was a boy so be careful!)Good Luck!
2007-06-07 14:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Wise Guy, tell the nurses and doctor who you want and don't want in your room and they will be sure not to let anyone in that isn't wanted. Good luck!
2007-06-07 14:24:19 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋