There are some things that my boyfriend had been consistently doing lately that i thought could be sweet but sometimes it makes me scared... i thought i'd ask what you guys have to say....
Everytime my cellphone beeps and i start pressing the keys to reply to SMS.... he blurts out... "who is that?"
There's this anonymous number that keeps on sending messages on my phone... so my boyfriend took the number and texted the guy what he wanted from me.... and it turned out it was just a highschool friend who was married... my boyfriend said he just wanted to make sure it wasn't a stalker...
then one time i told him... i hope he won't change when we're married... because we're engaged.... i told him that i like how he loves me now and i hope he won't change... then he said... "i will love you more... and take care of you... i might not even let you leave the house when we're married.... cause i wanna make sure you're ok".....
opinions pls........ in depth opinions..... pls....
2007-06-07 14:03:44 · 9 answers · asked by terra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not to sound rude but....Does he ever beat you? I mean he is a little overprotective and abusive relationships usually start that way...Trust my I have been in one before! My boyfriend slapped and punched me! And it started out like that!
2007-06-07 14:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once upon a time, I was with this guy who knew my schedule more than I did, made sure he walked me to each class (even if that meant getting a hall pass out of his class), and he was very "protective" of me. I thought how lucky I was to have a boyfriend who cared enough about me to want to spend as much time as possible with me and keep me safe. Well, had I known then what I do know I would have broken it off. A couple years and a child later and he is mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusing me. He was always acting jealous and accusing, as well as punishing, me for things that I wasn't even doing. Eventually, I grew up and realized that staying with him was no longer a good idea and got out of the relationship.
Sounds to me like you could be headed down the same path with your guy. If he was not joking when he made the comment about keeping you in the house then run out the door instead of down the aisle. Maybe he seems cute now but you won't think the same when he has stomped your self-esteem into the ground and given you a couple of black eyes.
2007-06-07 15:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's real nice that he cares, you probably feel very special, that's good. But you shouldn't allow this to become a problem. Sometimes, unfortunately, what seems a kind protector migh turn into a jelous violent person. In the future, he might get aggresive instead of overprotective. I don't think you want to live stuck at home scared of what your husband might think or do if he finds out you were out or if he finds out you were talking to some other guy friend. Hopefully this never happens, but just to make sure, talkj to him about it.
2007-06-07 14:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Chi-Town Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you better think twice about marrying this jerk,I do believe he's a control Freak,and your life will be missable,and as time goes on he could turn dangerous,so take your time and think this out before you go ahead and marry him,it might help if you can find some old girl friend or two,and talk to them,see what he was like in other relationships!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-06-08 01:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by Butch46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's a little obsessive. He sounds very controlling. You should tell him that you love how he is concerned about you but that you can take care of yourself and ask him to backoff a little. Tell him that it's starting to scare you that he is so over protective and if he doesn't chill out a little you should walk away from the relationship. His jealousy and controlling could lead to bigger problems like anger, and emotional and physical abuse. Be careful not to get in too deep.
2007-06-07 14:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I read above, seems its just a harmless "possessive behaviour". What you've not mentioned is that you must be pretty good looking, or have some qualities which a guy really appreciates, and like any chap who does'nt want to lose his girl to someone else's charms, your guy's acting just right. Many times, a persons care is sometimes mistaken for obsession. Not all of us guys know how to express how much we care for someone in that smooth, romantic way like in the movies.
Put your faith in him, and he will mellow down in his behaviour.
2007-06-07 22:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by Encryptor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be scared! This type of behavior gets worse as time goes by. As for his comment about not letting you out of the house, there is much truth underlying a seemingly joking comment. It may be time to cool the relationship, but beware, HE may become the stalker!
2007-06-07 14:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by cookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but, this sounds a little creepy to me. bordering on controlling. the comments wouldn't normaly bother me. lots of guys say stuff like that jokingly but, that combined with the phone bit, makes me a bit leary. i'd watch for issues of control. if that happens, get out. it won't change.
2007-06-07 15:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but your fiances sounds controlling, here the warnings now before its too late. He sounds very insecure. I advise you both to get counseling especially him before you say I DO.
2007-06-08 03:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋