im 14 and iv NEVER had a boyfriend! my friends say its because of who i am. i try to fit in, and not completly change me. what do i do!? my friend is close to her 4th bf and im mad cuz i nver had 1! all the boyz judge me for who i was last year and not for who i am this year. girls i need advice! plz help me!
2007-06-07 13:45:20 · 15 answers · asked by cutegirl67 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the problem is
2007-06-08 08:34:49 · update #1
THE PROBLEM IS EVERY BOY HATES ME! how am i supposed to find a guy if they all hate me?
2007-06-08 08:35:28 · update #2
If the guys won't come to you, you go to them! If you've got a crush who is maybe one of your guyfriends, spend some time with him and you be the one to make the first move! A few years ago I felt the same way as you did. A guy asked me out, I didn't like him, and I said yes just because I wanted a boyfriend so desperately! If a guy does ask you out who you don't like...don't get involved. It will just end with hard feelings. I decided to just wait for the right guy to come along. Now I have a boyfriend who I love and who loves me...and guess what: I asked him out! Don't be afraid to be bold...it will pay off! There will come a guy who sees and loves you for what you are: beautiful inside and out!
2007-06-07 13:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by Judy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so I'm gonna be the person that gives advice even though I'm a guy and this says girls only. I'm 15 and I don't have a gf. Now while I'm not going to tell you to focus on your studies which is obvious and it gets repetitive, I need to say that maybe someone likes you but is too shy or dosent know the right approach to you. Nobody really judges me on the fact that I don't have a gf because I really don't care what people say of me because that shows how judgemental some can be. Maybe sometimes the girl needs to take the initiative (but for me I have to man up and talk to a girl if I want to go anywhere) if they want a relationship because out there there could be someone who likes you and dosent speak up. That's all I gotta say.
2015-07-11 18:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sonic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never "try to fit in" to have a boyfriend. You sound like you're from a small town/area. If it still hasn't happened before you graduate high school when you get to college you'll find yourself opened up to many new people who are similar to you, so don't change yourself. Then you'll be faking yourself and others around you so no one will ever get or want to get close to you because they know you're somewhat of a fake.
If your friends see something wrong with you because you've never had a boyfriend then I'd say there's something wrong with your friends.
2007-06-07 13:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by unotra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey thats me...im 14 too, never had a boyfriend, friends on like #3, 4, etc. so i understand what you're goin through. and well....it is because of who you are. (not a bad thing, though) however, i don't understand what you need help with. getting a boyfriend? dealing with your friends who have them? honestly, if you try to fit in you will not be not be noticed and will just blend in with the crowd. and really, do you want to have 4 boyfriends in that short of time? i'm sure those relationships were very shallow. your right guy is worth waiting for in my opinion
2007-06-07 13:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by drpepperandcats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I think right now ur really worried about the wrong things. Focus on school and ur education, worry about boys later. When the right guy comes along u will know. Quit seeing it as a competition w/ur friend, b/c trust me in time it won't make her look so good that she's had so many bf's.
2007-06-07 13:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a boy doesn't like you for who you are, no matter what you do to change will only lower your self esteem. Don't worry about not having a boyfriend. Just focus on your school work and other activities. The right boy will come along when you least expect it.
2007-06-07 13:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by helen r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had my first bf in my freshman yr of high school and it lasted 3 days due to me i wanted to be like everyone else who had bf in fifth grade but since then i learned that you must let them ask you out because they will come to you if they like the way they observe you. Never ask someone in school out wait till your off school grounds, or ask some one whos a good freind to help set you up, a few blunders will get you on the dating track.
2007-06-07 13:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by kc_boxer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they were really your friends, they wouldnt be telling you that boys dont like you because of who you are. dont believe them. you shouldnt be so focused on getting a boyfriend. but if you really want one, try being a different person then who you were last year. dont change yourself completely, but try to prove to them that you really have changed. if those boys judge you, then their not really good enough for you anyway. hope i helpd!
2007-06-07 13:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have to change yourself in order to get a guy to like you. So you aren't dating yet, so what! If you REALLY like a guy, then you should ask him out. But if not then don't. Never settle for less.
2007-06-07 13:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
14? omg you're soooo old!
ur friend is on her 4th bf? sweetheart that is NOT cute...going thru a lot of bfs is not an attractive thing
2007-06-07 13:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋