i have two kids ages 2 and 4 they have lived with me since birth. their father was suppose to pay childcare for the kids but he stopped paying in march so i filed for child support. at the child support meeting he decides he wants custody of the kids. he does not call and check on the kids let alone come see them how does he feel he can gets custody of them. he was keeping the kids for me every other weekend while i worked but he stopped doing that , the kids have never, ever spent the night with him. can you see a judge giving him custody or even joint custody?? should i get a lawyer, i dont think he is getting one but not sure. thanks in advance.
2007-06-07 13:42:54 · 9 answers · asked by I love dooneys 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need a lawyer. The answers to all of these questions depend on a variety of things, like the state you live in, whether you were married, what other things have gone on in your life. Nobody here can answer those questions for you unless they are an attorney, and no responsible attorney is going to advise you without knowing a WHOLE lot more about your situation.
If you cannot afford a lawyer (and being a single mom of two, that's likely), contact your local legal aid organization. Every state has one -- you can find a clickable map here: http://www.lsc.gov/map/index.php. In addition, your local child support enforcement office should be able to help you with recommendations.
This is a really common response from men who are being forced to pay child support -- it's designed to scare you and make you back down. Only you know what's best for your kids and you need to fight for that as best you can. Even if he gives up the idea when he sees you're going to fight back, you need to get a custody and support agreement in place and enforce it. Your kids deserve it. Good luck!
2007-06-07 14:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer just in case, it depends on the judge and the kind of mood they are in on that day! You can also request supervised visitations in which he would visit the children but only under supervision. The kids need to have a relationship with their dad regardless of whatever is going through his head. I know what he is trying to do, but you have to do what is best for the kids, I dont blame you for jumping on this, do what you can to assure the children's comfort and good health- if push comes to shove you can just say to forget the child support and that you want him to give up paternal rights!!
2007-06-07 14:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by vixn2523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer now.I can't see a judge giving him any custody but better safe than sorry.I went through this and you really need a lawyer.Make sure you write everything down and don't forget what he did or didn't do.You can use it in court.Good luck.
2007-06-07 14:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by gerdie65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to family court and explain the same thing to them. The guy doesn't want to pay for child support so that is probably why he is doing that. Let the court knows how irresponsible he is... of course he is going to be angry that you hit him when it hurt him the most, but that is not only his legal obligation but also his moral obligation. He is a dead beat Dad... expose him to the courts and make him pay!!!
2007-06-07 13:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make notes of everything. when he calls, record them if u can. when he sees the kids, when he buys them something. everything. if he does nothing for them note it. show where u do all these things for u kids not bc u have to but bc its what parents do for their children (never refer to ur kids as kids say children) make sure u dont do anything that can be used against u in court. party, go clubbin, have wild parties,have men over . have ppl u work with n know like friends, neighbors, doctors, ect write notorized letters to show the judge. show how he has not paid childcare n stop'd watchin them while u work. show how he has made no effort to help out. dont talk ill of him to the kids either. if he goes out n parties.. get proof n use it. if he drinks use it. use all u can against him. b careful u dont do anything anything he can use against u.
2007-06-07 13:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you ought to get a lawyer. If money is an issue, you can try your local Legal Aid. Unless you think you can resolve this by yourself, but an attorney will look out for your and your children's best interest.
2007-06-07 13:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by helen r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you would be an officer of the regulation through fact that this could nicely be a concern the place somebody is breaking the regulation. the main you ought to do is to have a company the place you help the police to seek for infants or foyer for extra penalites for intercourse offenders. the easy answer is that civilians can not be vigilante keepers of justice. The regulation would not enable it.
2016-12-18 17:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he's not paying i doubt they'll give him custody unless they're in some type of danger with you...
2007-06-07 14:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see that happening.
You are the primary caregiver and supporter, that will be seen----as will his actions.
2007-06-07 13:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋