My Work friend Fancy's me but she is Married ! What should i do ?

Question

My Work friend Fancys me but she is Married !

I do like her and i know she wants more to happen ,

This all started on a work night out and i ended up kissing her ,

Ever since then she has come to like me loads , She textes me loads and is realy nice to me , But shes Married so should i just stay away ?

My friends think i should just get on with it and have fun but i would never want this to happen to me when i get Married :(

Im Comfused as i think this woman wants some fun so should i give her it :)

She's 38 and im 24 and fit so i dont blame her , But im not with anyone and she is a nice looking lady :)

Answer 1

I would not go there if I were you. After a bit of fun I think you will both end up disappointed !
First, she is a work friend so you would have to be careful about other colleagues who could find out about you both (they could even know the husband so ...) and I don't know where you work but your managers might not be impressed and send you doing something else so this affair does not distract you or others from concentrating on your work
(been there, done that ! how I regretted it, especially when we split up)
Second there is an age gap that makes me think she may be in a middle-age crisis (needs to prove she can still seduce and not feeling too old yet,) are you sure about her feelings ? Some women enjoy flirting as long as there is no "danger" (I'm not being offensive -you are much younger - and she might just want to flirt with you to feel "pretty" again - not being unfaithful to her husband)
This sounds a bit selfish but at 24 don't "waste" your life with a relationship like this that is just going to attract you potential problems.
Be honest, are you really in love ? Or is it just desire ? If one day she wants to divorce for you ? and what about her kids ?
There is plenty more fish in the sea, especially at 24 ...
Do as if nothing happened, be friendly like before and she won't do more I think
Good luck

Answer 2

Go for it. What others don't know doesn't hurt. Where and when would you find a fit, older and experienced lady for some fun? She could teach you a few things. To satisfy the younger lover, she would do anything. Just make sure it won't be a lasting thing though. You will never forget her and the experience. Enjoy but watch your back as her husband might walk up from behind with a baseball bat.

Answer 3

Here is an answer for you by virtue of parallel example. Every morning I go out into our little wildlife sanctuary in our back yard and I feed the birds and squirrels and chipmunks, crows, pigeons, cardinals, blue jaws and - yes, hawks and dogs. (The creatures all run and hide when they drop by.) Well, when I put out scraps from what our housecats left behind the little dishes sit out there in the grass for a little while and then a dog who has been brought to the park for a walk outdoors will make a beeline for the free food scraps and look furtively around while he is scarfing it down in a yank as though he is getting away with something, and because he feels this way, those little scraps probably actually taste better. Then he always gives me this wild look as if to say thanks for the surprise snack, and then he vanishes into the woods again.

Answer 4

For Heck's sake. Just because you are a male doesn't mean she is interested in you and her marrage means nothing. Don't kidd yourself. Sounds like you are playing with fire. You are in your peak. She is into games. If she doesn't want to married, she should, get out and save the hurt for anyone she corners and her family. But especially if there are children - don't go there. She's a jerk for flirting and you are a jerk for kissing her. Glad you are thinking of your future marrage. If you respect it and don't want to ever have to tell your kids you messed with a married woman. Think hard. Don't do it. I'm 46 years old and it means more than you know at 24 to be honest and true to your future relationships.

Answer 5

You seem like a decent person. If you want some "fun", go for it but if you want to avoid conflict, I'd run!!! Very far away from this woman!!! Could you handle an irate husband and what happens if you fall in love with a younger girl? Will this married woman willingly let you go or even want to share you? Be careful.

Answer 6

If you don't want it to happen to you when you get married, don't do it. What goes around comes around.
Tell her you're flattered and explain that you don't think its proper to have that kind of relationship since she is married.

Answer 7

The two answers are totally correct. Don´t get into trouble when you have many other uncomplicated choices!!!!
Think of "Fatal Attraction".

Answer 8

Just bend her over the copier machine mate.

Answer 9

If she is coming on to you and you enjoy it i wouldn't let it get to far because think of her husband and that could easily be you in that position , but if somethign happens it happens

Answer 10

Is immoral, mate. She is married.