Why do most women seek out the losers?

Question

Why do most women go after the kinda guy who is either
A.) A total Jerk
B.) Lives at home with his parents (we're talking over 18)
C.) Has the worst body odor ever
D.) Is a total lush
E.) has no license, no job, and no car

What Gives? I have personally seen each of these happen and find it very odd.

I can honestly say that I have met many people who fall into at least one of these groups. I know a girl who is finally going on her first date at the age of 20. She has had several boyfriends but they all have just been dating her to get into her pants.

I understand living at home to go to college but if you have a well paying job then wtf? I now 2 guys who make the same amount of cash as me and still live at home with no wheels. And yet women are drawn to them

the guy with the BO is one of the biggest ******* I have ever met.

Lush
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Lush may refer to:

* A person prone to engaging in excessive drinking of alcohol

Answer 1

There are many answers to your question. But I will try to make it simple.
Most of these girls didn't get the parenting they needed from their father. Girls get their identity from their fathers. That is where we learn who we are but also if we are beautiful, are we worth it? It being the time, trouble etc..
So many girls don't get any of this and so when it comes time to date, they grab onto any guy that shows them affection, or what is even worse is they grab onto the first dysfunctional jerk, because that is what dad was like.
You see a dad is a girls model of what a man should be so she will always look for a guy that is like her father.
If a girl grows up in a home with an alcoholic father it is highly likely that she will marry an alcoholic or a man that has the behaviors of an alcoholic.
I hope this made sense.

Answer 2

Well first, I'll point out that many people over 18 still stay with their parents. It's totally okay as long as they're in school, a lot of colleges can really bust the bank.

Next, some girls are looking straight out for companionship, and don't really care about the level of the guy they're actually with. It tends to be an insecure phase that women grow out of when they become more confident in who they are and they learn that they deserve better.

I've dated a few losers, mostly when I was an insecure teenager. At this point, I've got a great boyfriend that cares about me, has a great job he loves and working on his Masters (hey, wanting further education is sexy!), and is a total sweetheart.

The good guys win out in the long run, after girls come to their senses and realize they want a guy worth their time!

Answer 3

It could be several different reasons, from self esteem, and low confidence. Being used in the past and constantly feeding in to the BS some guys can talk. There are guys out there that can talk alot of good game but that's just to get the booty then love them and leave them. Many men cannot handle the up's and downs of a real relationship with one person. In all honesty that's so very sad, from not being able to handle femine emotions to fighting tooth and nail. I also know this personally and men who hit and think everything is ok are the worst kind of man.
Men can call women all sort of terrible names but some men are just the same as the names that women have been branded by the likes of men. It's not all men but there is a world of men that are just plain dogs, from the women beater, to the womenizer, to the player or pimp. Then there is the asshole, the insulter, the over macho and the big headed.

WHERE ARE THE GOOD ONE'S, BECAUSE ALL I WANT IS ONE GOOD ONE. Most have been just a bunch of dud's. I have dated each one from A to E. They are dangerous, cunning, and are keen in the element of mind games. WOMEN BEWARE!
THEY KNOW WE KNOW!
Good Question, maybe your one of the few, and you should be proud that you are one of the GOOD GUYS!
PEACE

Answer 4

If a loser looks like a hot male stripper thats all it takes. She then will provide the car, the money and lots and lots of sex in order to make him see he has a reason to change and prove how everyone was wrong about him even though he messed up."EVERYONE DESERVES A CHANCE!" and she gives him one by getting romantically involved to prove all it takes is a little TLC to change and "FIX" him then they can live happily ever after.Then 6months into her pregnancy still no job and no car and they are BOTH living with his parents or relatives or friends, and he is still doping, drinking ,cheating etc., reality slaps her upside the head.Unfortunately a lot of women are determined to repeat this mistake over and over and over with the same guy , different body.

Answer 5

First of all, "most" women don't seek out losers, though it might seem like that, depending on your age/location/where you meet women. And the women who do seek out losers probably don't know that they're doing it.

That said, women who gravitate towards losers might do so for a few reasons.

1. They might like a "project," something to "fix." A guy to clean up, improve upon.

2. They like being the best thing in a guy's life. An unemployed, smelly drunk can honestly - and almost immediately! - say "You're the best thing that's ever happened to me" to some girl who needs validation.

3. A loser is less likely to leave you.

All of these things have to do with a girl being insecure, not trusting herself to get someone more worthy, and/or needing to be in control of the relationship.

If it helps, women grow out of this as they grow older. And guys grow out of BEING losers. For the most part.

Answer 6

I have no idea. That's just plain retarded, he's gotta have a job, car isn't a big deal. If he's a jerk then it's out the door with him that's for sure. Body Odor!!!! Major factor!!!! It's not that expensive to get deodorant!! To me A,C, and D really matters. B too somewhat. but what's a lush?

Answer 7

As a gal, I'm rather sick of these questions. Almost everyone I know dates guys who are actually very good to them! These questions are disrespectful because look around you, are all the guys you know totally losers? I think not. And to say so would be sating you yourself are.
I think the problem is with you and how you go for girls who have insecurities with themsleves and thats why they seek a "loser" man to fill in that gap. Maybe you should actually look for self efficeint and fullfilling girls!

Answer 8

They don't. I've never met a woman who "sought out" losers, however I've known a lot who dated losers and I've known a lot of guys who dated loser women.

Even losers tend to want partners, and a lot of them are able to put on a good act.

It also seems that the ones that gripe about it a lot are the ones that got overlooked or turned down for a loser...perhaps the loser was just more aggressive...

What you describe IS very odd, but then those with low self esteem and who are needy, will often date anyone who will have them instead of holding out for someone worthwhile...the trend nowadays for a lot of folks seems to be "settling". That's okay though, leaves more quality folks available for those of us who are more particular. ☺

Answer 9

I take partial offence to E) only because i have no licence or car cause im lazy. But i do have a job and not having a car or licence isnt helping me pick up. I think they like a challenge, prince charmings are boring they already have it all together.

But if you get a guy who doesnt conform to your every whim then all of a sudden he is interesting. Fook knows why females think like that, females are just weird thinkers all round

Answer 10

A lot of times it is natural for a women to think that she can change a man. She may think that she can mold this loser into her perfect guy, which usually isn't possible. She also may just be extremely lonely and desperate. Women can be crazy, but never tell them that!!!