in my case to all the girls that I know and girls that like me I try to keep distance and if they try something on me then I put a stop to it and make sure they know its only friendship...now this happens and my girlfriend didn't put any stop to it and she says that she was talking about me and that he was talking about his girlfriend...but still it bothers me that he put his head on my girlfriends lap......what should I do? am I making too much of a big deal out of this? please some advice would help....oh and did I mention she use to like him in the past....any advice please..
2007-06-07 13:26:48 · 50 answers · asked by JCP 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say chill out. That's not a big deal - especially if she was talking about you and he was talking about his GF. They are just friends. If there was anything going on - she wouldn't have told you about it.
2007-06-07 13:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kleineganz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you should talk to them both. There's nothing wrong with being protective as long as you don't have a fit. If you just act like nothing happened like they did, he might get the thought you don't care much, and she'll just flirt more and more with him. You have to show your feelings and put your foot down when something is bothering you, which no one can blame in this case. If this girl is a good friend (or person if you rather), she will stop. If this boy is a good boyfriend, then he will stop. Do and say whatever you feel is right.
2016-05-19 05:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make it clear to your girlfriend that it bothered you when her guy friend put his head on her lap, and see how she responds. Just because she did like him in the past, doesn't mean she still does, and they are friends. If she flirts with him often, and talks about him non-stop, she may have feelings for him, but as far as I can tell this seems pretty innocent.
2007-06-07 13:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Sh@t! You have a man size problem, Dude! Just kidding.
You know anything is possible in the realms of romance. Either your girlfriend loves you or she don't. You can't control that. You can't control her lap--or any other body part for that matter. If you're enjoying the relationship than enjoy. If not talk it over with her and if her free loving attitude is not your style than take a hike and find someone else with similar values to your own. You've got your whole life ahead of you.
2007-06-07 13:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by splatterchew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your morals are different from others. You did the right thing by asking her about the incident. But I believe the answer she gave you was "incorrect" and not satisfactory enough the clear your doubts. Putting his head on her lap is "intimate" and not something anyone would do to a girl knowing that she has a bf. Your gf did not object to what was going on - he could have been kissing her thighs or sniffing something. He must have been doing this to her when they were together that she considers the act quite "normal". Her answer testifies to the fact that she believes you are over reacting. My advice is RECONSIDER!!!.
2007-06-07 13:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Old Timer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a big deal if your worried about it, tell her how you feel about it and maybe talk to the guy that put his head on her lap and make it clear that you dont want any boy being involved around her besides talking to her from a distance if she was a good girlfriend she'd try anything in her power to stop any guy thats tryna get at her or ANYTHING you know...explain ur feelings to the guy too just dont cuss him out ok? be nice about it and if it continues then maybe u shouldnt be w/ur gf because she's not taking responsiblity for her actions and as a woman and having a boyfriend we have to pay attention to what we're saying and doing if we really love them (our boyfriends) i hope i helped good luck!
2007-06-07 13:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your making to much out of it honey. If you care about her and she cares about you then trust her.
It's most likely an innocent event. Talk to her about it. How you feel threatened. Communication is an important part of any relationship. Just make sure you speak to her calmly and to the point. Make sure you don't accuse her of anything other wise you might end up in an argument looking like a jerk.
Trust is an important part of a relationship. It is the foundations. Without trust the relationship will fail.
2007-06-07 13:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is a female trait but guys get sucked into it occasionally. If you were there to see it the odds are it was simple affection between friends. If you really like this girl you better get it together. Over reacting to something like this is the fastest way to lose a good thing. You have already talked to her about it and her response sounds normal and healthy. You should be happy that she has friends that care SO... DON'T FREAK OUT!
2007-06-07 13:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Traveler 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well me and my best guy friend act like that all the time, I'd say the difference, though, would be her having liked him in the past, although that has probably past. So I say yeah, you're making too big a deal out of it, but who can blame you, you really like your girlfriend and shes acting the was she would with you, with some other guy!! talk to her if it really bothers you, and explain that you like her so much, that when you see her with other guys, it makes you sick inside to think she'd be with anyone other than you.
2007-06-07 13:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a long deep breath and then exhale. You want to be the more mature man here. Simply tell your girlfriend that you would appreciate it if she did not allow this sort of thing. Keep it very simple and absolutely no anger.
You see what is up here is that she is familiar with his behaviors so to her they don't seem way out of order. Same goes with his method of communicating with her. She needs to understand your boundaries, however, and that to you the extra familiar stuff seems out of order. Be careful of your language and choose your words carefully but honestly.
Your goal is to state your point AND be the better man. Good luck.
2007-06-07 13:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen one girl putting her head on my boyfriend's lap and I made a BIG deal out of it because it's wrong...he said that it was just something friends do and that he didn't know it would upset me...he said he will never let it happen again.So my advice for you is to talk to your girl and let her know that it's not OK to do that and she will understand.
2007-06-07 13:32:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋