suicidal thoughts??

Question

i failed ALL OF MY CLASSES THIS QUARTER!!! i cant stop crying. my mom says this will be the worst summer of my life!!! i will be studying all summer not hanging out with my freinds at all no tv no ipod no radio no computer!!! after tomarow i will have to do all that. im 13. will i go to 8th grade?? proably not!!! i have been haveing suicidal thoughts!! how can i be happy???

Answer 1

Mel, The grades are only a reflection of the feelings you have already been having. By the way, repeating some classes is not the end of the world. There are many successful people who had to re-do. You need to figure out why you did not complete the classes with passing grades. Please have your parents talk to the school counselor for some referrals. Sometimes it is as simple as needing glasses or a little more complex like depression. What I do know is, it will get better. I promise.

Answer 2

Failing all your classes is BAD. I'm sorry, but that's the plain truth. It means there's something wrong -- you have to deal with it! You should know that. I hate to sound lecturey, but honestly, you need to study.
We all have our bad times once in a while, it passes. Right? It passes? Well, make sure it passes. Thinking about it is natural, doing it is not.
About suicide -- it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. There have been people in the history of this planet who have led a perfectly good life after failing all their classes! The important thing is to just take matters into your own hands -- study as hard as you can so you'll do better next year.
On the other hand, what your mom did was pretty harsh. I have no idea what your mom's like, so I don't know what to say. Just commit yourself to it, and I'm sure that sooner or later, as long as your mom's got a bit of heart, she'll give you some benefits because of good behavior. In the meantime, read some good books (because your mom didn't say anything about books, right?), and STUDY. I hope things turn out well for you!

Answer 3

First of all, take a breath. That's all you have to do, just one breath. Then another, and another. Nice and slow and just concentrate on that. All of this stuff will be there to worry about in a few minutes, but you have to get to a point where you can stop crying and think. It's ok to be a little teary still, but you can't cry uncontrollably and figure things out.

Second, you need to tell an adult how you are feeling. I understand that your mom is mad, so she may not be the person to talk to this second. But you have to keep talking and telling adults how you feel until someone listens and helps you. Someone will, I promise, as long as you keep talking. Talk to your other adult family members, to your friends' parents, to your doctor, to your teachers and counselors at school, to your religious counselor. If they don't help, call your community's teen crisis or suicide hotline. If your community doesn't have one locally, come back here for some national numbers.

There's a reason why you failed your classes. It might have something to do with why you're feeling suicidal. In any event, this is bigger than one thirteen year old can handle alone. Sometimes even adults can't handle problems this big by themselves -- but they, just like you, find they are able to with help. No matter how bad you think things are, they can be fixed. You just have to keep asking for help.

I am a mom, and I know how moms can get. But at one time, I was also a suicidal thirteen year old. My mom didn't listen, either. I kept talking, though, until someone finally listened and helped me. My mom finally came around. Trust me, as mad as your mom is right now, she would rather have you repeating 7th grade than not here at all.

Please come back and let us know you are OK.

Answer 4

You know my friend, take all this moment for your self. Everything in this life happens for a reason, and for you to help other you have to go threw situation. Now it may seem like the end of the world, but NO. Some one that is not your friend wants you to think that. Life is a gift from haven and is not polite to destroy gifts, rigth? You are beginning on life baby and computer, ipod or radio did not exist before and people survey threw it. Look for something creative to do. Just think for a moment if you stay in the same grade you can do nothing about it now.but next year your now everything better than the others, make from the worst the best, and right now pray with me, Dear lord forgive for having bad thoughts and help me learn from my mistakes, help understand that this is not the end of the world, and let me feel that your are with me. love you!!!

Answer 5

My heart goes out to you .I have some ideas for you but first we have to make a deal.Forget all thoughts of suicide.While you may feel sad because you failed all of your classes and might not have as pleasant a summer as you had planned,suicide means that you will not have any more summers.Make a promise to your parents to study hard in the summer and do better academically.When they see how hard you are trying ,I'm sure they will start to return your benefits.Ask for help during the incoming school year for any difficulties you have in your studies so you would do much better .Remember life is precious and it is also a song worth singing.Good luck.

Answer 6

you're still very young with a lot of life ahead of you. Right now it sounds like you're going through a very rough patch but it WILL pass. It would be best for you to let your mom or dad in on how overwhelmed and helpless you are feeling right now. If you want to be happy just know that this is something you have to do so that next year you can be in the same class as all your friends. Work hard and try to find time during the weekend to meet up with friends for a few hours. All hope is not lost. You can work hard and still find time for fun. Just don't give up. You can do it.

Answer 7

First, you have to ask yourself why you might fail 7th grade! Have you been having too much fun with your friends? Or is something else going on in your life that you are having trouble coping with? If you are simply having difficulty with your work, don't be afraid to ask for help. Ask friends, teachers, find out if there are study sessions after school. If you are having other problems that are interfering with your ability to do your work, then speak to your school counsellor or your doctor about it. If you are simply having suicidal thoughts over not being allowed to hang out with friends, or having your fav things, then you are over-reacting emotionally. People can live without all those things. And you need to be responsible enough to try your hardest to do your work to the best of your ability. I failed 9th grade twice, and now I'm CEO of an import company. Just because you're having difficulty now, doesn't mean it will last forever. You need to try to relax and be patient, as well as listen to your mom. Sit down with your mom, & calmly try to explain to her everything you have written. Try not to argue about it. Explain that you need her to listen, that you're scared, and you need a big hug. Your mom should understand that life at your age can be very overwhelming, and a difficult, but short lived period, while your body and mind become adjusted to all the new hormones wreaking havoc in you. Just remember this is all temporary. Things do get better, but you have to be prepared to put in the effort. Things don't get better all by themselves. And don't go and hurt yourself. There would be many people who would miss you. And one day, you could be writing this letter to someone who needs your help. Hope you feel better soon. Don't forget to smile :)

Answer 8

You are being very selfish. Think of your family and how they would have to deal with your death. I fail grade eight in Australia. The next year I did subjects that I enjoyed and did very well. I then went on to uni. Failing a few exams at 13 is no big deal. You will face a lot more harder challenges as you move through life and it will make you a better person for facing them and dealing with them. It is not how you fall in life or how often but how you get back up that makes you a strong person.

Answer 9

It sounds like you had a lot of things that consumed time, Time that should have been spent studying, Your parent is as guilty in this as you are. by providing you with all these time consuming objects. As far as the grades are concerned, it was your choise to not study, You have a summer in your life to work on your grades and go on to the 8th grade, In a life time that is a blink of an eye, but death , well, that's for ever. I suggest you stop thinking in terms of (Poor me) and do something constructive , that will pay off in a long run.

Answer 10

You shouldn't be having suicidal thoughts over this small problem in your life right,now. You are the one who failed all her classes,nobody else is to blame. Just face it and be happy and tried to do your best at summer school so you can go into the 8th grade. We all mess up sometimes in life, just accept it and be better next year in school. Think positive !! Summer school will go fast if you think positive about it.