Relationship Question?

Question

So I have been in a relationship on and off again for close to 4 years now. Last year she moved to the East coast and I staye in the Midwest, however we have been continuing to talk to eachother. I can say that even after not seeing eachother, the comfort and love is still there. We also end up sleeping with eachother when we get together every few months to catch up even though we have continued to move forward with other people (nothing serious for her or me). Here is the problem... She is looking for Grad schools and has told me that she is willing to move back to the Midwest if I were ready to commit (i.e. move in together, engagement down the road) and this would be a no-brainer except that she is not Jewish. I know this sounds lame, but it is really important to my parents. My thinking is, am I choosing her/us over a healthy relationship with my parents in the future? They say that they will never accept her, but part of me thinks that it is some-what of a bluff. Any advice?

Answer 1

It does sound like a bit of bluff - as long as she is willing to accept at least some of their customs, then there should be no problem.

Deep down, they want you to be happy first and foremost - and THEN to please them second.

But then again, I don't know your parents personally - they could be VERY set in their ways. In this case, it is almost impossible to find someone who will live up to their unreasonable standards...

Answer 2

If you really love her, you should commit to her... I don't think it should matter that she is not Jewish... You cannot let your parents dictate your life. What matters is how you feel about her.

Answer 3

some parent do that coz they think she is not the best one for you...but if you love each other at the end you the one who married with her not your parent. and at the end your parent will be soften up

Answer 4

if you love her, then be together.