I love my girl; she loves me. . as more and more we got close to each other, i was finding more and more about her past. we both decided to speak up everything about our past so we are not surprise in future. i told her i had one relationship, but she had four sexual relationships. she slept several times with each of her ex bf's. she told me as we decided not to hide anything from each other.
Knowing her past sexual relationships hurts me. she understands and tells me that if i cannot handle, i can let her go. i love her, and i do not feel this should be the only reason to let your love go. but my concerns are will there be a time i will start over looking and forgeting about her past? Is she safe to be with? Should such girl be given a chance and would she be trustable? please help me with your opinion/advise. thank you
2007-06-07 12:40:26 · 6 answers · asked by Desert Fox 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it would not be fair for you to leave her just because of her past sexual experiences. this is why many women are not honest about their sex life. since both of you decided to be honest, you should accept her answer. theres no need to be intimidated. it could be a treat for you that she has more experience. she could teach you some things.
2007-06-07 12:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Love Child 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both agreed about being honest with each other, and obviously you did not like the answer. So get over it and enjoy your time with her. You even recognized that you think that it shouldnt be an issue. So why make a biggie about it? Yes you can trust her and that is something that she will do with time and if you feel that she is not then let her go. Just b/c she had 4 partners dosent mean she is a **** and cant be trusted. Go with your heart and let it go....If you make it an issue it will grow big enough to the point where it will eat away at you.
2007-06-07 19:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lil Miss Lis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is everyone so hung up on people's past. Your gf past has nothing to do with how she feels about you now. Sounds like you would have preferred her to lie to you rather than be honest. Don't penalize her for her honesty. My only concern would be if she were comparing you constantly with her ex's. If that's not an issue, you should be letting it go. You have set up an automatic defence mechanism, which is likely to eventually drive her away if you don't get over it. People have sex all the time and get caught up in the belief that sex is the intimate part of a relationship. It is only a small part of it. Intimacy comes from trust, honesty, committment that you develop in a current relationship, not what you did in your past. What it sounds like to me, is that you have an over-active imagination. You need to picture it as being just you and your gf, coz I can guarantee, she's not thinking about them, she's thinking about you. Another perspective to look at this from, is to look at the psychology of the situation. What type of environment did your gf grow up in? It is entirely possible that she grew up being taught to equate love with sex. Girls are also taught the personality flaw of playing the maiden in distress. When their knight in shining armor comes along and saves them, they think that they will live happily ever after, but after a while, even the maiden comes to realize that things don't quite work out like they do in the story books. Good luck.
2007-06-07 20:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by eviichristensen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didnt have to be honest but she was. If your just gonna hold it over her head than yes you should let her go. If you love her than it really shouldnt matter. Every one takes a chance when they give their heart away no matter what has happened in someones past. You can never garuntee things will always be great.
2007-06-07 20:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much does she love you .? Did she stand the test of time .? Yes you should forget her past ..It is what makes her, her. and you love her.She didn't have to tell you but she trusted you .Are you gonna hold that against her? Then you do not deserve her.... You r a lucky man ...she likes sex w/ partners .You would be happy if she stayed w/ just you so ask her if she wants that!!!! Life is always a gamble but people live for love .treasure her...........
2007-06-07 19:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she never CHEATED on anyone of her past boyfriends - then there should be no problem :)
2007-06-07 19:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋