my daughter (D) was asked by her friend (C) to wear a gown to her (C's) wedding.
But she is not part of the bridal party...
When it comes to the photos, i am sure they will only want family in the photos...
why should she be the only one wearing a gown - outside of the bridal party?
Am i right?
2007-06-07 12:32:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you should find out why she has made this request. If no other guests will be wearing gowns then your daughter is going to feel awkward. Also unless there is a specific reason for this request then the bride has no right to ask any guest what to wear. You should not have to go to the expense of buying a gown if your daughter is not in the wedding.
2007-06-07 16:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe C wanted your daughter to be a part of the wedding party, but couldn't include her due to politics of some sort. If your daughter is performing hostess or program duties of some sort, she should definitely wear a gown. And even if she's not participating in any sort of way, maybe the gown is important to the bride. My guess is the bride wants to do a special photo w/her or wants her special girls (outside of the wedding party) to look a certain way. Another guess would be if the bride thinks your daughter might wear something very casual -- this might be a hint to dress up. I'm only guessing her. If cost is an issue or there is really a hesitation for your daughter on complying w/the bride's request, perhaps your daughter should just ask C what she has in mind so your daughter can try to fulfill the request to the best of her ability.
2007-06-07 12:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Talice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, that sounds really odd that she isn't part of the bridal party, and yet she was asked to wear a gown. Even if this friend was going to pay for the gown, I still think it would be weird.
2007-06-07 17:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by LovesToCook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's paying for said gown? if the friend is, then rock on. If not, unless it's a formal (black tie) type affair where everyone is in gowns and tuxes, then a tasteful dress is plenty for a wedding. Would friend (C) ask a male friend, not in the Bridal party to wear a tux? I think not, so why should a female friend wear a gown?
2007-06-07 12:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by princess_dnb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems really odd. Your daughter might feel really really out of place. If she is really good friends with the bride then she should follow her wishes. However they don't sound too close if she isn't in the bridal party. You're right. She shouldn't be the only one wearing a gown.
2007-06-07 12:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about why C's asked D to wear a gown....
Is it because C only sees D in pants and wants her to get dressed up? Or because it's a formal affair and C wants D to look nice?
Who's paying for D's gown? C?
There must be a reason........maybe D lost a bet with C and has to wear a gown to pay off her bet?
2007-06-07 12:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by soccerref 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most weddings, especially when the temperature increases, is a cross of the bridal party in formal wear and the guests in summer dresses they may also wear to the club. Wear whatever she is comfortable in unless she has some additional responsibility at the ceremony itself other than just being a guest.
2007-06-07 12:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by That NC Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes no sense for your daughter to have to wear a gown. If she is not part of the wedding party and will not be in the pictures, this is absolutely absurd of the bride to request.
2007-06-07 12:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by Scrapper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some friend - if your daughter isn't going to be in photos and/or the bridal party - absolutely not. I'm a guy, but I would not ask some friend (who I obviously don't consider a good enough friend to put as one of my groomsmen) to wear a tux "just because"!
2007-06-07 12:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by JamesW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason to wear a gown to a friends wedding if you are not in the wedding party, is if it is a formal wedding or black tie affair.
2007-06-07 12:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋