Is it better to tell someone you have cheated on them or is it better to not tell them. This is if you did it once during a bad fight and feel bad about it and would never do it again.
2007-06-07 12:18:27 · 31 answers · asked by *Rumer*Severin* 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it was a one off thing, I would keep my mouth zipped. If you truly love your bf/gf, then I wouldn't go out of my way to jeopardize what trust there is, unless you want to tell out of spite. If you find yourself wanting to cheat with others in the future, then I would just break up, because a lack of respect in yourself should not have to reflect on your partner. Relationships are supposed to be about loving the person your with, not going out of your way to hurt them. And in all honesty, was the bad fight really worth having? The outcome of the situation didn't help your relationship, so I would try to find other, more calmer ways of dealing with your problems.
2007-06-07 12:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by eviichristensen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TELL. Clearly you feel bad about it. Clearly you don't want to do it again. Clearly you want to be with him still. You screwed up. You know you screwed up. End of story. If you tell him then the only thing you are doing is hurting him. You are hurting enough as it is and you learned your lesson. You now understand the importance of the relationship you're in and how much he means to you.
Exceptions: if there is any way at all that he would find out then tell him. Always better to hear it from you than someone else. Also if this cheating included sleeping with someone else and there is a chance you might get pregnant, then tell him. Otherwise just don't do it again.
2007-06-07 12:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Telling her: the pros are she'll know her husband is a pig and it won't happen again. The Cons are she'll be heartbroken and the little boy will have to go through his parent's divorce. Not Telling her: the pro is nothing changes; everything continues the way it is and nobody is sad. The Cons are a wife that thinks her husband is a great man but in reality, he's an a s s, you'll always be second to her, and you have to live with that guilt. I would tell her.
2016-05-19 04:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can never understand people who cheat, but I would say don't tell, because it will only make the guy miserable, as well as give him justification when he cheats on the hypothetical you later... I have never seen it turn out well when one party breaks the news. On the other hand, maybe he should know if he is the kind of guy that would want to so he can leave and find a faithful partner.
2007-06-07 12:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by lei 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely better to tell them. If they hear it from someone else, you're screwed. Since it was during a fight and you feel awful, you should tell. There is a chance of losing them, but they will be more likely be glad that you told them and feel bad about it. Your relationship might be a little tense at first, and they might have lost some trust in you. But if you are willing to prove your apology and gain back their trust, you will be glad you told and things will be okay. hope this helped a little...
2007-06-07 12:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always say honesty is the best policy. What if he finds out years from now? There is a saying that "Whatever is done in the dark, always comes out in the light." I feel ot will be better coming from you opposed to hearing it or finding out a different way. I know trying to find a way to tell him will be difficult. And odds are extremely high he will not take it well. Was this something that has happened recently? If you tell him, please try and start out in a way that he might understand better first, but also please give him time (maybe months) to sort things out. I hope you have learned a valuable lesson. Good luck
2007-06-07 12:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it is easy to say that you won't do it again, but the chances are that you will, you need to question yourself about how much do love him. And if you stay with him and you do tell him you may loose him anyway. Cheating in a relationship no matter if you where mad or not is bad business.
2007-06-07 12:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to be honest. Secrets come out eventually, it make take 10, 20 years, but it happens... TELL HIM. Plus, you're going to get it anyways, karma's a beeotch.
A lot of people on here are saying "don't tell so that you can save yourself and not give him a chance to cheat." but is being selfish what you want? 90% of the time your spouse has cheated on you too in these kinds of relationships. I'm sure it isn't JUST YOU who is dissastisfied with the relationship.
2007-06-07 12:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by lost.in.love 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's always better to be honest with someone in an relationship, therefore you should tell him that you cheated on him, he's reaction will probably be anger and betrayal, explain to him that it meant nothing to you and that you love him (that is if you really love him)
2007-06-07 12:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by jlsparks81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not keep it from my mate but then I don't cheat. Why are you so close to another male that you are seeking comfort in their bed? Tell, you would want to know wouldn't you. i mean if he cheats, oops maybe he has secrets to and then the whole relationship is a sham of lies and deceit. Talk to your dog, don't screw your deceit.
Can I puke now!
2007-06-07 12:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋