I'm 16 and I'm going through the stage were peer pressure gets to me and people my age, and everybody seems to have to fit into some little group, and have a silly label attached to themselves. The thing is, I don't want a label, but I can't seem to choose a personal style because when I meet people, they are always a specific label, and I'm always worried if they are judging me because I don't look like them, because I dress a different way. I hate the pressures of image are so strong in todays society. I also have no confidence around the opposite sex, with girls I get on great because I seem to have a bubbly fun personality, but I get all shy around guys and constantly think they are judging me about how I look. I've never been comfortable with the way I look. Guys always go for my friends anyway. No one has ever fancied me really or asked me out. Facially, I'm not that bad, I don't seem to have a horrid appearance, I try to maintain myself. What's up with me! Help please!
2007-06-07 11:56:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS. i am a FEMALE.
2007-06-07 12:10:56 · update #1
Remember, YOU are a style!!! Your style is YOU!!! It's a great style to have too!
You need to know this: You are a wonderful person. You have many great qualities. The most important thing you can be is good. Care for other. Don't fake it.
I knew a girl at school who was one of the most well respected kids in school. She was not loud, she didn't drink or party. She worked hard, took care of herself, and got good grades. She was a great athlete but you would never know it to talk to her. She never talked about herself. She was nice and most of all, she was thoughtful and cared about other people. It wasn't fake either. She was genuinely nice; would stick up for kids who got picked on, and she would speak out in favor of the kids who were outcasts at school, and things like that. People loved her because she was sincere, and didn't try to be somebody else. Mostly because she was nice. That's who she was and it worked great for her. people loved her. And they liked her. They didn't just love her, they respected her.
She died. 16 years old. car accident. broke every heart at school.
So, be yourself, but most of all be a good person. Be kind. People will respect you and people will probably actually like you too.
2007-06-07 12:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are stressin wayyyyy to much. Just chill! I can guarantee that you have your own style - it is impossible not too! Just what you like.
Dont try to just fit in with the others. Be yourself. I can tell that you are cool ... dont ask me how but i can just feel it. You just gotta relax though. If you do that and really try to enjoy yourself in everything then friends will come! Trust me. Just be a nice guy to all and you will get tons of friends.
My style .. well my style cannot be classified. I have taken what i like from different aspects of the world and made it my own. No one else is like me. My friends are definitely not like me. But i think that is what make us such good friends. We respect each other.
Dude ... chill - you will be fine. Just relax and enjoy :-) You will find your style.
Good luck and god bless :-)
2007-06-07 12:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, be original. People who fit into specifically one label are fake and are only fooling themselves. Just do your thing.
I'm 17 years old and I'm the exact same way. I don't fit into any group, but I do have alot of friends. That's because I have my own style and alot of people like that. You don't need to fit one style in order to fit in. Just relax.
2007-06-07 12:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by LaissezFaire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to fit in be secure in your growing womanhood. Form a girlfriend alliance with your friends so you are not alone. This is a part of life that is real tough but if you can endure you will come out stronger.
2007-06-07 12:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit trying to please everyone else and please yourself... that is a style in it's own right... and... funny thing, you may find that you have developed a style... and you will be happier. I was very unhappy until I quit trying to be someone I wasn't, and then all of a sudden, I had friends.
2007-06-07 12:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't push it. let your style come to you. its like trying to write poetry, if you cant thing of it don't push it because it may come out bad.
2007-06-07 12:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫viva la vida♫♪ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adolescence
2007-06-07 15:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋