On saturday night i met a woman ten years older than me . I'm 26 and of course she is 36 . We got quite close in just a few hours and exchanged numbers . All her friends have told me how she is totally besotted with me and keeps talking about how hot i am ! The problem is my family don't like it and have told me it will never work and i'm kidding myself if she will really go out with me . We were supposed to go out over the weekend but now i feel so confused because my family have made me feel so worthless.
2007-06-07 11:49:53 · 37 answers · asked by Chris G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, you're twenty-six. Even if you're just hanging out and not getting too serious, you've got the right to do that. Heck, even if you two get together for something- uh... more... You two are old enough to make that choice. Why should your family have a say?
She could be "the one". Maybe- maybe not. Even if you were just thinking about seeing her casually, that's totally okay! Your family doesn't have any place telling you how to live your life and it sounds like you're looking to them when you probably need to find your own happiness- not just what they want for you.
2007-06-07 11:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really like her?
You'll knock her confidence so badly if you turn around and say no now. Imagine how you would feel if that were you... you'd probably be devastated. It's not her fault that she's older than you, and I don't see how it is a problem. I don't understand why an age gap is a sign of a relationship failing - my boyfriend's parents have an age difference of 29 years, AND they got married after only ONE WEEK of knowing each other. They're still together now. It can work.
You shouldn't feel worthless because of your family - rather you should try to prove them wrong. You might be able to show that it can work - and if it doesn't, it might be for some totally different reason, so you won't have failed. We only live once, so you have to do what you feel is right, regardless of what your family thinks.
2007-06-07 12:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by .єmιlч. .ωєmιlч. ~♥~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it but it depends on the people. The reason it usually doesn't work out is the same for big age differences for any couple. At your age, there is a huge difference in your life experiences. For instance, you have lived in an age of computers and cell phones. She might be old enough to remember before either was popular. It seems trivial but experience makes a difference.
Having said this, I date a woman who is 6 years older than me. I was raised in an "old-fashioned" family and her family was more modern so in some ways I have more relevant life experience than she does despite the age difference.
2007-06-07 12:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by Truth is elusive 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. thats really refreshing to see a girl that doesnt "need" an older man, and a guy that isnt so thick headed that age matters.
And actually, women have a 7 year longer life expectancy than men, so ideally you want to shoot for 7 years older than you for optimum longevity of the relationship, so youre actually only 3 years off by my logic.
And seriously. it isnt a matter of age. if you really love her why on earth does that matter!?!
tell your family that if they really love you then they will want what makes you happy, which is her. And that unless there selfish pigs like most people, they would see the logic in the 10 year age gap due to the life expectancy statistics I got from the goverment.
2007-06-07 11:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Adam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I´m more or less the same age as you and am going out with a girl who is 15 years older than me. We have been together for over a year now. If you like her, go for it.
2007-06-07 12:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sooooo okay. Obviously, you two have made a great connection. So there's an age difference; Who cares? If you really love her, keep her. As for the parent prob, tell them exactly how you feel about this girl. Maybe even introduce her to your parents to show them what a great couple you make. Above all, follow your heart. Hope this helps!
2007-06-07 11:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it man. Your family may not like it, probably because they think it never has a chance of working out, or that you will never have children with her. But I will tell you from experience it may be the time of your life, if that is all you are looking for. Or it may actually turn out to be a very strong relationship. Take a leap of faith.
2007-06-07 11:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by rdwoelfe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is no it isn't.
Live life to the full and if you really like her then take her out and see if anything develops. If its just a bit of fun for you both then enjoy it while it lasts.
Don't let your family put you off. If the relationship takes off they will soon come around when they see how happy you are.
2007-06-07 12:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does not know age. If you feel you all are vibing-then roll with it. Be sure to consider all areas that may cause conflict if you're thinking about getting serious with her. Maturity is always a factor to consider because she is an older woman-not saying that you're immature, but just give it som edeep thought. Ultimately, the decision is yours. I would say give it a shot if it's something you're feelign strongly about.
2007-06-07 11:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by smoothlyrics81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you are far too young for this lady. If you weren't you would be able to make your own mind up. Shame though you can't just enjoy each other's company. In 10 years time you are almost certain to look older and be slower than her.
2007-06-07 11:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by proud walker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋