My boyfriend is like the perfect boyfriend. He is loving, kind, caring , generous , good looking and gets on with my parents! Everyone loves him, including me (VERYmuch!) I can't imagine my life without him. But he is quite conservative and doesn't really have a wild side. I on the otherhand do and enjoy socialising and going to the pub, etc whether he would rather stay at home. I am not attracted to 'bad' boys at all. Still I do tend to find myself a bit bored at times?? Why do think this is so? Last night i had a dream that i was being intimate with another guy. Do u think thats a meaningless dream or could mean something?
2007-06-07 11:38:59 · 38 answers · asked by allyspringflower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have nothing to achieve or obtain. The hunt is over. When there's nowhere to go but down, things will either get worse or they'll get boring.
2007-06-07 11:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A realtionship is an investment in the future. No one is perfect, so it's unlikely that you're going to be able to meet someone who satisfies all your needs and desires. That's just the way things are.
Consequently, it is worth investigating this relationship (and your role in it) from every angle. This guy might make a good and reliable father, but a not very exciting lover (these two talents don't necessarily go together). It's also true that a spouse can't be expected to be everything - that's what friends are for.
On the other hand, studies have shown that those people who have the most in common stay together the longest. Conservatism is a character trait, and as such isn't really open to negotiation. You have to either take it or leave it. For example, my third wife was very unwilling to walk up a hill, even one with a small incline in a city. It was difficult for me to understand, and it would have been easy for me to feel superior and call her weak. I decided it wasn't worth fighting over, and walked up hills with other people.
2007-06-07 11:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do give it some real thought before you really get serious about this boyfriend. While it is true that opposites attract...in time, you both may be so opposite that you don't see that you have much in common at all. If you are dreaming about and thinking about intimacy with another guy, then something is not quite right! Maybe you are just bored with yourself really and not him. Without hurting him or hurting yourself, do give this some thought. I am kind of in the same situation with my husband of 17 years. I do love him, but I am very social and I like meeting people and doing things and going out, but he is perfectly content to stay at home and do nothing socially. He does not talk much to me. I have no plans of leaving or anything. But sometimes I wish things were different. Do give it some thought!
2007-06-07 12:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by BLM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he's a little conservative and doesn't like "night life" activities doesn't mean you always sit at home all day. Maybe try to interest him in some activities like bike riding, or rock climbing or making a nice dinner together. Try packing a picnic one day for both of you and eating it by a lake nearby. If you feel bored it's up to you to take the first steps towards sparking some new activities in your relationship. He might be feeling the same way but maybe he doesn't know what to do.
Good luck!
PS. I think it was just a meaningless dream.
2007-06-07 11:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright heres the deal. its kind of abnormal when there isn't anything wrong with the guy. i mean every relationship has bumps along the road. but when the person is perfect there is nothing to work on and no way for your love to grow stronger by fixing mistakes and by gaining more trust. see if you have no flaws then you have no reason to be mistrusted and life goes on. when you do have flaws then people may not trust you for something you did in the past. but there is sort of a magical feeling when the 2 of you make up. you know that you have eachother again and everything else is gone. so that is probably why you are bored. cuz there is nothing to improve on.
2007-06-07 11:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by hollaholla if yous a balla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are just that, dreams. I have all kinds of great dreams, and I can analyze them all day, but very few of them would I want to come true, even the great sexy ones with the hot neighbor (I'm very happily married myself). So you are bored, ok, analyze that a bit. Relationships are about different people coming together and loving each other for the reasons they are different. Explain to him how you are feeling and discuss potential solutions, maybe you can go out a bit more, sometimes he can come along, other times you can go out with your friends. Talk about things the two of you can do to spice things up. Often, conservative guys are attracted to girls who have a bit more fire in them, chances are that if you have the ability to communicate well you can find ideas to spice things up that both of you will find enticing!
2007-06-07 11:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Breanna C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all get bored in long term relationships. Have you ever heard the phrase "Get out of your comfort zone"? In THIS case, you are too far INTO your comfort zone, and that can be just as bad. It lacks exhileration, and everyone needs a surprise now and then. Your dream probably just was representing you "squirming" meaning your a little TOO comfertable. Don't worry about it, just try to find that sense of surprise outside of your love life. Get a wild and crazy new friend, or try a new activity. You can keep your love life comfy if you balance it out!
2007-06-07 11:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by Cloudyheartgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is "perfect" doesn't mean that he is perfect for you. Maybe talk to him and tell him how you are feeling and if he tries to change then give him a little bit of time and if you are still bored then dump him and find someone who excites you. Nothing worse in the world then going through life bored.
2007-06-07 11:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by southmadejd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there my friend! And I'll tell you something: whatever you do, don't let him go cause you're gonna regret it! Trust me! You could tell him that one day you guys will do something you want, like going out, and the next day you can do something he wants, like staying at home and watch a movie or something. Try that for a while. That way you will get to know each other better and you will be both happy! Hope I helped a bit!
2007-06-07 11:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him he seems like to a perfect guy for any girl out there but what u can do is tell him how u feel and if he could change a little bit and try doing things that u enjoy
2007-06-07 11:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by kajal c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could mean a number of things really, you are the only one who could answer that. Sometimes we find people boring that we love dearly because we do not have enough things in common with them. Trying to find common ground or even a compromise on spending time doing things each other likes and see if that helps.
2007-06-07 11:52:15 · answer #11 · answered by raina4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋