I'am 18 years old and i'am gonna start college. My dad and my mom and my sister are moving to pakistan. My dad caught me smoking and he's like go live your life...and he' said ur gonna be out of here in two months. He said he gave me enuff chances. IN my opiinion...just cuz u smoke..ur there gonna kick you out? THERE MY PARENTS....he should be helping me out..but he's not..he said find a place to live...what am i supposed to do..serously i mean soerusly...where am i supposed to stay...???/
2007-06-07 09:48:48 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What were you smoking? Cigarettes or pot? If it was an illegal substance, I can understand your dad getting pissed off.
Your parents have fulfilled their legal obligations - you're 18 and a legal adult, so you're responsible for yourself now. Anything they give you beyond that is a gift.
True, most parent give more, and continue to support their children until after college, but it's unreasonable to feel you're "entitled" to it.
Talk with your dad and apologize for breaking the house rules. Try to get him to calm down and give you another chance (he is overreacting, but he has a valid point, and you need to recognize that).
If he still insists that you move out, and he refuses to pay for college, then you need to get your act together, fast. First, find a job, doesn't matter what, as long as it's legal and has a steady paycheck. Calculate that about 25-30% of your paycheck will go to rent. Check Craig's List online, and local community bulletin boards for rental listings in your area - it's probably best if you sign up as a roommate, so you don't have to furnish your place from scratch. Then see if you can get a student loan and still attend school.
Your dad will probably come around, but you need prove to him that you're capable of taking responsibility, and don't expect everything to be handed to you.
2007-06-07 10:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some families just are sooooo freaked out when it comes to smoking, its almost like they think u killed someone, I could see how they would feel even though they really should be trying to help u. But, what do u do know, u dont give many details about urself except going to college, smoke, 18 years old, since u got no parents to guide u gotta make really good froends that will help u. Since ur parents dont have commitments with u anymore make commitments to friends, tell em u smoke be honest and if they're still interested when u hang out for studyingdont smoke, try one of those pills that helps u stop or something
2007-06-07 09:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Dhoopy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an 18 year old instead of sitting around smoking you should've been looking for an apartment? You're parents have had you in their house for 18 years... you're a grown up now and getting into college, couldn't you get a dorm? If you don't have enough money ask your parents to help you out. If you don't have a job, then you need one. You're right, maybe smoking isn't a good reason to kick you out, but then again why do you even want to be living with your parents anymore? It's not easy growing up and you can't rely on your parents for forever.
2007-06-07 09:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi first thing smoking is not good . U r 18 and if u went to school here u should know how to get job in fast food places,be a man and start taking ur responsibilites, I am sure u can do much better then u ever thought about ur self , dont undermine urself. i am sure ur parents love u and care about u. show them u r a man now . make them more proud. I know at this time u feel down but let the positive thoughts come in ur head and listen to ur inner voice .think of those people who r not as lucky as u r then u feel encouragement and u will take one good bold step today and stand on ur feet .good luck.bye now.
2007-06-07 09:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by massiji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the rules your parents have set forth. You choice not to follow them. You are now and adult. Act like one
No one owes you anything . Get a job, go to school, pay for it a little at a time. You will not have money for smoking. You have disappointed your parents for the last time. There have been many other things, this was just the straw that broke the camels back and he said no more paying for your breaking the rules. Grow up get a job, go to school , get an apartment. You are now going to be learning the hard way. All because you could not listen to a few rules set forth by your parents.
Sorry, you have no one ot blame but yourself.
2007-06-07 09:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I feel for you, but you really need to start making some wise choices. The first and most important thing you need to do is get a job. Really all they are doing is forcing you to grow up, you wanted to act like an adult so they are treating you like one. I hope you have some good friends that will let you crash at their place otherwise you may need to be looking for a good shelter.It's not the end of the world and in the end it might actually make you a much better person. I really wish you the best.
2007-06-07 10:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen you are 18 your an adult you need to learn to do things on your own go look for an apartment and move in there stop smoking you are going to die from lung cancer no one is going to want to date you because of your breath and yellow teeth and wrinkles I mean live your life take care of yourself smoking does not solve problems!! Go live your life healthy and relaxing get a job if you don't have one get on your feet and be an adult you are acting like a 5 year old whining about something you don't want to do. Grow Up! You are starting your life on a bad path fix it! Just GROW UP!
2007-06-07 09:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by iLoVeNaThAn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do your parents owe you anything? They raised you, gave you their values, which you obviously don't follow, as your father seems to have kicked you out. From their point of view you don't want help.
Sometimes the best help that parents can be is to let back and let their kids make their own mistakes.
Do you have relatives you can stay with? Friends? Until you find your own apartment? Try craigslist.com for your city as well, there are lots of shared rooms out there. Good luck.
2007-06-07 09:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by joteach03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, this is not the first discussion you've had with your parents about smoking. As old-fashioned as this sounds, as long as you are living in their house, you live by their rules. One of their rules was not smoking, and you broke that rule. You are now paying the consequences.
Your parents' job is not to "help you out", but to raise a responsible adult who can make wise, responsible decisions. You are an adult now, and your personal welfare is now YOUR responsibility, not your parents'.
They are doing you a favor by giving you two months' notice, so you should be able to find somewhere to live in that time.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-06-07 09:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl this is simple but first of all let me tell you that I'm sorry what you might be going through. See I relate to you when i was 18 My parents also keep me out. It was because i wouldn't listen to their rules. Let me tell you that I move out with one of my friends and i was living with my friend but guess what everything didn't go like i thought.
My parents wanted me back home. I waited and then went back home I had along chat with them and they gave me some space as well as I follow through their rules alittle but that made them happier.
So girl what I think you should do is simple and that is talk to them but try to compromise. You give some and they give some. Girl they really love you believe it or not.
parents gets on our nerves but that is why they are best for.
Don't get mad and try to understand them they don't want there child to get hurt or anything like that....
So girl good luck and talk
2007-06-07 10:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by mary o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋