I am thinking of going back to a public school next year and I need some advice?

Question

i am homeschooled now and I want to go back, but its a long story. See when I was in 7th grade I tried homeschooling as a idea and i didnt really think i would do it for long so I went back in 8th grade. I had a horrible time. Its not that i got picked on, its just I was left out of a lot of things beacuse people thought I was weird for homeschooling. I had trouble making freinds because a lot of them already made their cliques which were almost impossible to come into. so i went back to homeschooling and i have been since now, finishing 9th grade going into 10th. I dont know I just need some help becuase I am thinking of going back to a cathicloc high school for 10th grade, but I am a little hessitent because I dont want to have a horrible time like a did in 8th grade. And please dont say like u need to for social skills or whatever thats not what im asking.

Its a co-ed cathiloc high school

I just want to make a lot of new friends and stuff. I cant stand the people at the public school in my town so thats why i just wanted to meet a bunch of new people. I also wanted to to start doing plays and i play tennis and would like to join the team and there are toher things i want to do

Answer 1

I think you should go back and try it again because what happened to you in 8th grade is in the past and your going to be soon a 10th grader, you can have a whole new start. Don't be holding yourself back because of things that happened to you in the past. Let me explain.

Everybody changes and so the people you knew in 8th grade are changing to. You might have had nothing really in common or cliqued back then in 8th grade, but between those two years people change a lot.

Your going to be a soon 10th grader and you have changed, and so have the people you knew back in 8th grade also.

Who knows, today you may have more in common and relate to each other better then you did. But your never going to know until you go out and try it.

Get what I'm saying?

You can't live on the past, forget it. Start living on the present, don't be worried about the things that happened to you back then, think of all the great things that can happen now.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Kids are a whole lot different in 10th grade than they are in 8th grade. Junior High is a really tough time. Kids can be really mean and cruel. There are still mean kids in high school, but it seems like they have more figured out who they are, and are more mature, and are just more likely to be nice.

However, it absolutely depends on the school. I grew up in a private school, and there were a certain core of us that were in there from elementary till we graduated, but we had lots of students come in for a few years here and there. Since you already have some specific interests - tennis and plays - that will give you a place to meet people that are like you and you will have things to talk about. If you give it time, you will probably be able to make friends.

Answer 3

The fact that you missed the start of high-school is pretty key. High-school and middle school are a lot different than each other. High-school is a great opputunity, but bottom line: what you WANT to do is what you SHOULD do.

Do you have any friends or people you know in the high school? Try and ask some people what it's like, and if possible, take a tour of the school after or before hours.

You may want to organize a meeting with some key teachers to let them know what you're going into.

Remember: if you do go into high-school, it's not going to be easy. I'm guessing it's going to be difficult at first, but hang in there and you'll probably fly high.
If you end up not loving it, talk to your school consuler or your parents and see what you can do. Take one step at a time, and you should do fine.

Rock on!

Answer 4

It's really too bad you had such negative experiences in school. Unfortunately, like you say, the cliques will probably already be formed for each grade by now. On the other hand, kids move in from other districts all the time, so it's not impossible to do.

Being treated poorly because you are homeschooled is wrong, but the only way maybe to avoid it is to not say anything. Not sure how private schools are with this kind of information, but you don't have to disclose what you used to do (unless this is a school where people would be familiar with you for some other reason).

I'd be careful. Look at the reasons you want to go back. I don't see any reason why you want to go back in your post. There may be things you can do to meet whatever needs you have besides going to school. You might want to get a firm grasp of what's driving your feelings on the issue, and see if they are really going to be solved by changing your educational model. If so, then go for it, and enjoy it!

Answer 5

High school is a little different than what goes on at the jr. high level, but it can depend so much on the high school. It'd probably be best to make visits to the high school you want to go to. If they are already done for the year... You're going to maybe have to try it out in Sept., see how it goes, if it's not working, get switched back into homeschooling.

My main concern would be that you check with the school you are interested in and find out if they would credit your gr. 9 year (if you live in a place where gr. 9 is part of high school credits). There have been cases of schools not recognizing a homeschooled student's grade 9 work and having them redo gr. 9. This may or may not be the case where you live.

Answer 6

I would talk to a counselor about your concerns.

I would also advise you to align with school clubs or activities that you share interest in, so that you can connect with friends in a meaningful way. When you are focused on what interests you, you will naturally attract and interact with likeminded people.

If you go to a Catholic school that is competitive, I would definitely suggest finding a tutor to work with on a regular basis who is familiar with the coursework, textbooks, or teachers at the school. That way, you can focus on your schoolwork consistently while you are figuring out the social factors and where you fit in.

I think if you start off with just one or two friends with common interests, it is easier to build from there. Don't overwhelm yourself by taking it all on at once. Take it one step at a time and get advice and feedback from a school counselor or tutor, or maybe a teacher that you trust in as a mentor, who is familiar with the school programs and environment.

Best wishes to you and try not to worry.
If you don't feel comfortable about things, ask around.
It is generally understood that anyone transferring from one school to another will have these questions.

I think you will find there are more advantages than disadvantages to being an independent thinker, though it may seem awkward at times like these.

If you focus on your studies and activities of interest, you will naturally make friends where there is mutual connection.

Take care and heads up!

Answer 7

I think that your life will be very different if you go to a Catholic school, especially one that has no 'co-ed' classes ... but you MUST be able to reach out to make friends, and make yourself into a 'standout' person for good reasons ...
I'd give you 'less chance' to make it in a 'public school' because the co-ed and the 'dynamics' there are very different from those at a Catholic school. And a Catholic school isn't 'public' ... it's a 'private' school. THAT is something that you'll really 'need to know' or you'll seem 'really stupid' ... even though in England, if it's a 'religious' or 'run by people not in the government' it's a public school, and if it's run by the government, it's a private school ... so if you live in England, you are 'correct' when you say a Catholic school is a 'public school.'

Answer 8

well i was homeschooled my whole life until i was a freshman and my parents made me go to a public school for the social skills, like you said. so i definitely share your perspective on cliques and how people can make it really hard to not be left out... if that makes any sense.... i was like friendless throughout freshman year for the same reasons but then we moved so i got to start over in a new school, now i'm a junior and it has gotten a lot easier to make friends. i think if you don't be shy and give people time to get to know you then eventually people will start hanging out with you a lot more. it's probably important to find a school you really like too. ummm and get involved with sports or other school activities like clubs.
anyway that's my advice but if you really don't want to go to regular school you don't have to, and you can always quit.

Answer 9

I have been homeschooled, went to public school, and have gone to a catholic school. It is hard to make friends, escpecially when groups of friends have already been formed. This might sound wierd, but you have to keep in your place for a while and try not to just jump into a group. You should act nice and kind of see how everyone acts, if you think you might like hanging out with one of them or a group, go up to one of them and say a simple question, they'll probably start to get to know you, and you'll become friends.

Answer 10

You need skills

By 10th grade you should have Algebra well under your belt and be Geometery ready

You should have fundamental 2nd language

You should have covered World History

Biology and Earth Science

If the answer to those questions are YES then you are capable of handling 10th grade.

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