Someone thinks about you, say they want you to move with them, shows you houses and says they would buy you a car.
Does he mean what he's saying or what, or is this a version of prison promises, that will never be? Do guys really mean this stuff or is it part of the play to get the booty. I want to know if this is genuine, or fake Player BS, that's filling my head.
I'm not a fool but sounds tempting and he's really nice as well as an old friend. So I'm torn between words and conflicted with this situation.
What do you think, could he really be a good guy or should I tell him to hit the curb running!
2007-06-07 09:38:57 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he's not in PRISON, he's in the Military. But I've heard these kind of things from an ex who was in prison and well, there is where I made the assumption.
2007-06-07 09:54:11 · update #1
Do you really want to be so dependent on another...those things you mentioned will "tether" you to this person, it will not truly be "your" car or home.
I mean there is a slim chance these magnanimous offers are genuine and come with no strings attached...but not trying to be ultra negative, it is highly unlikely.
Besides, finding and becoming yourself has alot to do with making a life for yourself...independent of others, if only for awhile.
It seems that you may be young and not have had much experience yet out on your own?
In the long run, people here on this site cannot tell you much of anything concerning your situation...we don't know you or this guy that you've mentioned.
He may be quite sincere and he may be some bizarre control freak, who is attempting to lure you into a situation where he has the upper hand.
I would suggest you seek advice from those around you who know the two of you best.
Good Luck...^_^.
2007-06-07 09:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the guy is telling you he'll buy you a car, to guys thats a commitment. But until the car arrives i would take it as is. words.
Having someone buy you a car is the coolest thing in the world, but it has it's disadvantages too. Once the relationship goes sour. The car becomes an issue. Your better off buying your own car. And have him help you make payments instead.
He could be a good guy, but I wouldn't believe much of anything he says that involves big spending. Until he does it.
2007-06-07 09:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible and this could go either ways. You need to find out if he's truely into you before you make the next move. He very well could be a dog, but he could also just be a very sweet guy who really likes you.
You need to learn to communicate with eachother and if he's not willing to do that, then maybe it's just not worth it. So think about your choices and talk with him in a serious manner about the stand point of a relationship. If that doesn't happen, drop him because he's wasting your time and causing confusing. PEACE
2007-06-07 09:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do say a lot of crap that they don't mean. But I don't think most would BS about the kinds of things this guy says. I don't think a guy would lie about moving in with someone just to get some action - if he does lie, and the sh*t hits the fan,it would be ugly.
You have to be careful, there's always the excuse "I meant it at the time" which is a bunch of lame-*** crap.
2007-06-07 09:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by sandand_surf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, guys can talk/promise big and not deliver right away. He could be meaning to say "I think you're really special and would like to show you how I feel, which involves buying a car."
Go with your gut - listen to your close friends as well. He could be a good guy, but if it's creeping you out, then let it go.
Good luck!
2007-06-07 09:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by a gal and her dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough one usually when the guy wants just the booty they just tell u things like your pretty or they love u not that they want to move in with u and buy u a car; So I guess u need to just go with your gut your gut is never wrong!
2007-06-07 09:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sherry A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you are unsure about this relationship. I definitely wouldn't make any big decisions until you know you are ready.
If he's an old friend, chances are he's being real. But as I said, you, yourself don't know so I wouldn't risk anything.
It's possible that he likes you so much that he would do all these things for you. Take your time, slow things down and explore this relationship if you really want to be with the guy.
2007-06-07 09:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Cdn Chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. Some just tell alot of BS but others are genuine at heart. Thats a call you need to make for yourself
2007-06-07 09:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men will BS you and some will be sincere. You have to make the judgment based on how well you know this guy. Do you know about his history with other women. If he's lied to them, chances are he will lie to you. If he's been honest in his past dealings, he will probably be straight with you.
2007-06-07 09:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by jaytee556 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you said, "as well as an old friend," does that mean you've known him for a while? if so then take on what u kno of him and make ur decision, otherwise just say kno, or take a chance, but don't except too much from him becuz u might end up leading him on a lot. enjoy the ride while it last.
2007-06-07 09:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sierra D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋